What we're about
A love letter to YOU:
Hi! Thank you for taking the time to stop by and for reading more about us. I really mean that.
I don't know exactly why you're here, but before you read any further, I wanted you to know that if your heart is open, then YOU BELONG. If your heart is hurting, if you're confused, if you feel lost and alone and you don't know where to turn. You belong. If you can't find your tribe, you belong.
And in the same breath that I say that you belong, you are also free to go. Come, be with us. Learn, love, and leave if you wish. We ask nothing of you but your presence when and if you wish to give it.
There are no true safe spaces, we're human. But we do try to encourage loving acceptance of each other, which means that I invite you to bring your whole self to us, as vulnerably and confused as we all were (and still are!) when we first took a step down this path. And I encourage you to treat every single one of your new friends and family members with the respect, kindness, love and dignity that you wish you could have every single day in every single interaction.
All walks of life are welcome. It doesn't matter who you are. We're all human in this group, just stumbling around tripping through life, falling on our big ol stupid fucking faces. We're all in this together. We're stronger together and we all need all the help we can get.
Poly Social is a community. A real community. A family. A network. So many lives have changed here. Come holding that in your heart. Come knowing that you're joining a family before anything else.
What will you bring to the team?
If you don't know yet, I am confident that I will see it in you, so I hope we get the chance to get to meet and get to know each other.
With hope and love,
We are all striving for more effective communication, authenticity and connection in ways that most people don't see every day, so coming to our group can be a bit of culture shock since we're all very open, and yet we're still humans and many times we're nervous and shy just like you might be. Reading about us is a good place to start.
But the goals of the group and the goals of myself, Izzy, the founder/individual differ slightly, and for the sake of transparency I wanted to share.
We will always be evolving. Individuals create the meetups, I help where I'm needed and wanted. Please don't ever hesitate to ask. Then ask again if I forget. My memory is terrible.
MY individual goal is to serve you, to learn, explore, collect and provide resources, connect, educate, support, grow, advocate and spread awareness. My goal as an individual is to spread love and a message chock full of team work, self and neighborly compassion, and to one by one let people know that they have ethical choices other than what we have been taught and that they are not the only ones suffering.
I don't have all the answers (or maybe we all have them), maybe we can find them together.
I painted the flowers below in a quick squiggly rush, and a friend said it looked like the flower on the right was helping the ugly ducking flower join the group. I didn't even mean for the other flower to be a different color. Amusingly, that's where I had signed my name.
I hope you'll let us help you in.
About us and our Mission
PolySocial is a non-profit organization connecting the ethically non-monogamous in the Tampa Bay area through low- or no-cost social events and open discussion groups. Founded in 2014, our goal was to unite people who make ethical choices concerning non-monogamy.
Today our mission as a group of individuals stays on course. As an organization we have not only added the goal of spreading awareness to the benefit of those that identify as non-monogamous, but also to deliver the message to others that there are choices.
But who are we exactly?
We are a collaborative group.
Each member of PolySocial is partially responsible for the success and growth of the group. This is done through hosting and supporting events where polyamorists can connect with one another! We have a Meetup group showing a detailed calendar of events and a presence on social media sites including Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and more! The journey toward these connections with us begins with a visit to our website: www.polysocialgroup.com.
We are people who exist on varying parts of the non-monogamy spectrum.
We have members who identify with polyamory…swinging…relationship anarchy…and you’d be surprised to find people in two dynamics who do it exactly the same way. We have open relationships…closed ones…huge networks…friends with benefits…play partners…long-term and short-term relationships…and even people still trying to figure things out. We believe in making ethical choices when it comes to non-monogamy and we believe in autonomy. We have explored our hopes…our dreams…our fears…and our desires, and have chosen to live our lives authentically and with a passion for what is right for us. We believe that each person has different needs and only they know what is best for them.
We are everyday people…just like you.
Contrary to how it is depicted in pop culture, there is no one “right” way to navigate through the non-monogamy waters. There are people in our group who are successful at it…there are people who make mistakes and try to learn from them…and there are people who are new to all of it and are just looking for guidance and advice. We wish to connect with other like-minded individuals in hopes that we help foster a sense of support and community. No matter which label you identify with, we hope you will find new friends. And while we recognize that the kink community overlaps a great deal with alternative lifestyles, we hope to offer a safe and comfortable space for everyone involved.
We are NOT a swingers group nor a singles club.
This is a social group focused on networking, friendships, and developing relationships. Those who attend our events are, typically, already in existing relationships. Some may be looking to expand their dynamics and some may be “single and looking”; however, this isn't a hookup group. Those new to the group are likely to be disappointed if they are specifically looking for sex or a romantic partner.
We are respectful of each person's need for privacy.
By joining our group, you end up giving up a little bit of anonymity in exchange for information, but we do not sell or otherwise misuse your information. You don’t have to provide your real picture, but we do ask that you have some form of avatar on your profile. And you don’t have to provide your real name…just whatever name you wish to be known as!
We are INTROVERTS. (Well, some of us are, anyway)
We have people from all walks of life, and we know how hard it is to stick your neck out when you're new to a group. But rest assured that many in the group are also shy, and were once nervous about coming to an event the first time - just like you. It is our hope that you will reach out to one of us if you wish to attend an event but are feeling nervous or anxious about doing so. Heck, most of the time, we're nervous, too!
Above all else…It is your responsibility to respect your fellow human.
A good way to be removed the group and no longer be welcomed would be to violate/disrespect another member’s boundaries. Another good way would be to violate their need for privacy. Yet another good way would be to make people feel uncomfortable through inappropriate advances. One surefire way to help you avoid this would be to refrain from private-messaging our members until you obtain their consent after meeting them in person first.
(Those who ignore this request should be reported to firstname.lastname@example.org )