What we're about

The Kink-Collective is a leather family. We are an ever-expanding group of people who are connected as a family by choice. What binds us together is the belief in and practice of the philosophy of People Before Kink.

Mission Statement:

WE exist to carry the philosophy of People Before Kink to the community at large and to embody this principle in order to promote personal growth and responsibility in ourselves and others.

People Before Kink is the simple belief that who we are should always come before what we do, particularly as it relates to the BDSM/kink/fetish lifestyle. We practice getting to know each other as people and caring for one another on a deep level BEFORE we engage with each other as players. We believe that achieving and maintaining these kinds of relationships require effort and dedication and as a group we are all committed to this kind of work, with ourselves and each other.

WE believe in the importance of trust, communication, loyalty, and respect. The energy is always growing at the Kink-Collective events. The bonds tighter, the family larger & the community bigger. We seek to make an imprint on every guest that attends, not just for the evening, but throughout their whole fetish journey.

Based on our philosophy of People Before Kink, all the Kink collective events start with a 45 minute social period. This time allows us to connect with those around us and gives us time to connect with others as PEOPLE FIRST, not facilitators. We believe if you know the people around you, your inhibitions will lower and your curiosities rise. The chances of experiencing those deeper connections multiplies, and connections happen.

Who is the Kink-Collective meant for?

The Kink Collective welcomes all who seek meaningful connection, open communication, and continuous learning. We are a community based on inclusivity and personal responsibly. We engage and support one another on our journeys through kink and fetish, as well as gender, sexual orientation and all the other areas of our lives.

The Kink Collective is also an all-inclusive space for those who feel homeless and disconnected from the community. We embrace those who are looking for more than instant gratification and transactional play, those who seek more authenticity and genuine connection in their relationships with others.

The Kink Collective is for anyone in this community, or interested in becoming part of it.

Are you in a polycule?
The Kink Collective is for you.
Are you a nonbinary transgendered person who is looking to be surrounded by understanding and acceptance?
The Kink Collective is for you.
Are you brand new and looking to dip your toes into the big world of BDSM?
The Kink Collective is for you.
Are you a seasoned Daddy or Mommy looking for a supportive environment in which to play?
The Kink Collective is for you.

If you seek to connect, share, socialize and play with conscious intent, to forge deeper intimacy and meaningful bonds with others who are on a personal journey of discovery, then the Kink Collective is here for you.

Come join us for a social, educational or play event and get to know us.

Adult Play, Harm Reduction and Psychological Health
Despite the prejudices of some, an authoritative Psychology Today article explained that “BDSM may serve as both a healing and harm reduction approach to trauma and emotional pain.” The article states that BDSM is not pathological, but it “can also be used in a therapeutic sense, both in trauma healing and for some, as a harm reduction approach.” Membership in the Kink-Collective assures that all bdsm activities will be refereed and conducted under safe conditions between fully consenting adults.
Further, a 2015 article in The Atlantic reports a “dramatic improvement in mental health” from consensual bdsm activities. The article describes how bdsm activates “repressed emotions in order to process them in a safe and supportive environment.” It continues: “A study from the Netherlands found a greater prevalence of positive psychological traits in BDSM practitioners than in the general public. The practitioners were less neurotic, more extraverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, less rejection sensitive, and had higher subjective well-being.”
Changing lives one spanK at a time!

Kink-Collective hosts the following MONTHLY events:

Future dates:

(08/29)YES, SIR


Hosted at PADDLES the second & 4th Saturday of every month, we invite our guests to NYC's largest & longest running play space. The Kink-Collective’s new, all-inclusive event for people of ALL genders, ALL sexual orientations, and with ALL levels of experience. Join us in taking the next step toward building a flourishing BDSM Community by attending the "DUNGEON," where we can all gain mutual support and understanding around the lifestyle issues that impact us all, regardless of which side of the power exchange we are on.

250 w. 26st


The OTK fun continues! The spanking party is held every THIRD THURSDAY of the month.

This is, as it has always been, a party of, by and for Spankos. This is strictly OTK play, no sex permitted. We are taking the party to a new venue, one that is well suited to this event and one we are sure you’ll enjoy. It is open to ALL GENDERS, ORIENTATIONS, LEVELS OF EXPERIENCE.

2nd Floor Loft
38 W. 39th

Yes, Mistress


While this is the standard at most events, I find it’s important to remind people of the rules when attending an event of ours. We do it as a clear reminder to al6l in attendance so there aren't any "Oh, I didn't know" instances. It’s important we host an event drama free and with safety first in mind. If there are any questions, concerns or suggestions regarding our rules and regulations please feel free to inbox us. Your input is valuable to us.

*Do not touch before asking, EVER.
*All attendants are equal regardless of how you/they identify.
*Do NOT interrupt any scenes in progress. If you feel something is unsafe, notify a DM with a glowing band.
*Keep all conversations to a low conversational tone.
*Keep your play scenes safe. If you aren't sure how to do something, ask!
*No pestering. NO MEANS NO.
*No violence, threats or challenges.
*The Kink-Collective holds final decision.
*House Safe Words are "YELLOW" and "RED".
*You are responsible for your guests' behavior.
*You attend at your own risk.
*If you have a concern, please address it directly with us. No matter how small you may think it is.
*Clean up your play space. Cleaning materials are provided.
*Coat check is available. We are not responsible for any lost or stolen items

We will hold everyone to these standards and there is a 1-strike policy. Anyone who cannot conduct themselves in a courteous and socially appropriate manner will be escorted off premises and excluded from any future KINK-COLLECTIVE events. It's our standard message that we've posted throughout the establishment as well....

We have always had a mission to make our mixed-gender events ALL inclusive. Regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, social status, etc... we are ALL on this journey of finding ourselves in and out of the bedroom.
We are all kinky.. we all have desires. Join us to celebrate our kink exploration freedom under one roof. Men. Women. Gay. Straight. White. Black. Anywhere on these spectrums.

Provided are links for anyone who feels they’ve been victimized.
New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault

New York State Coalition Against Sexual Assault

We are all one.
We have always been and will continue to be all-inclusive.


We look forward to meeting you.

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