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What we’re about

We are a community of LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer) singles and couples (and other relationship types) who live primarily in the Triangle area of North Carolina and who come together to socialize, participate in activities, and form friendships. Please join our other Meetup page.

Group rules:

  1. Respect: All members are expected to act appropriately with other members. Any harassment, privacy violation, public humiliation, or any unwanted sexual innuendo towards other members will not be tolerated. Members will address other members by their self-identified name and pronouns to the best of their ability. Do not inappropriately touch other members. Seek consent preferably whenever possible before making physical contact. I do not condone any activity that makes members of this group feel in any way uncomfortable, violated, harassed, shame, or in any other way unsafe at our meetups. Please help foster respect by avoiding malicious gossip or bad-talking of other members. I prefer to keep meetups a friendly, safe, diverse, drama-free environment. Violations will result in expulsion.

Also, this is not a dating service. Do not join this group for the sake of finding the new love of your life or a new addition to your bedroom, etc. Any unwelcomed solicitations are a violation of this policy.

  1. Discrimination: We are a diverse, inclusive group, and we do not discriminate on: Race, Ethnicity, National Origin, Sex, Gender Identity, Religion, Sexual Orientatio, Relationship orientation, Age, Disability, Family Status, Economic Class, Relationship status, Sexual History, etc.

  2. Privacy: Respect everyone's privacy! Our site settings are such that our events & membership lists cannot be seen by anyone who is not a member. Occasionally, some events may become cross-posted with other Meetup groups like us. We do ask however that members do not put our events on a public forum to ensure privacy. Do Not post a copy and/or publish our meetup event details to non-members with exception to inviting your own personal friends that will attend as your personal guest.

Note: Everyone should update their site privacy settings to a level they are comfortable.

  1. Age: requires an age of 18 or more to create an account. I agree with this policy. (Some meetups at bars may require 21 and up.) However, we do have meetup events that are "family-friendly" and open to kids accompanying their parents who are members. Otherwise, I will implicitly post what events are “family events”. That goes for pets as well. (For these all events, please contact the designated Event Host directly for more information before making assumptions.)

  2. Attendance: We require all members to use's RSVP system. This allows organizers to plan their events, which often involve managing space and providing refreshments. In the event that you have RSVPed to an event, but can no longer attend, we ask that you update your RSVP status as soon as possible (even last minute if necessary) AND post a comment on the event to alert the host. "No-Shows" are discouraging for organizers. "No- shows" may cause organizers to waste time and money. Those on the “wait list” will also be affected by non-attendance. We require that you keep your RSVP status up to date.

Failure to do so may lead to:
First time: Warning.
Second time: temporary suspension.
Third time: Removal from the group for no less than 12 months. However, that will be at my discretion. Habitual offenders will not be tolerated and notice may not be given.

Note: In order to ensure that this policy is enforced fairly, organizers are asked to mark no-shows for their events. If you are uncertain how to mark no-shows, please contact me.

  1. RSVP: Read each event description fully before RSVP. Contact the designated "Event Host" if you have questions about that event. If it's your first time, you may need to inquire on how to find everyone. If you are on the waiting list or not able to RSVP, do not “crash” the event anyway. Hosts will aim to honor the RSVP process. Headcounts are part of the planning process.

  2. Quiescence: All members are anticipated to stay active and to attend events. The point of Meetup is to get out there and meet people. At the very least, I request a "Goal" for all members to attend a meetup event a minimum of twice a year, but it's not required. What is required is that you check to see what events are active within a year. Anything less exhibits dormancy (I can see if you checked our group page). There are a great variety of events between both our Meetup groups, so please check every so often so you aren’t marked as inactive. "Idle" memberships may be removed automatically on a regular basis, however, those removed may rejoin if they truly want to.

  3. Spam: Spam is never tolerated and we immediately ban any member violating this rule.