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This is a group for anyone who has previously had or who is currently in a relationship with someone suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (or Cluster B / Dark Triad / Axis II Disorders). ALL are welcome! We started this group in order to meet other survivors and to encourage everyone to thrive after leaving the abuse cycle. Not a well known topic and seemingly few expert counselors are available to us. For many of us here, the 'light bulb' moment when we first learned about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is the moment that we first started to heal from narcissistic abuse. We are here to pay that information forward, so that other people can also begin to heal through a 'light bulb' moment of their own. Fear of speaking out is a common aspect of narcissistic abuse – our aim is to remove that stigma, to provide information and support, and to promote awareness. When we speak loudly and openly together, we are stronger.

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?

Despite the popular image of a narcissist, we are not here to talk about an overbearing boss or controversial politician – or a celebrity who takes too many 'selfies'. Instead we are here to talk about that particular person in your life with whom you have a difficult or troubled relationship. A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) usually displays more than a few of these attributes:

1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)

2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)

4. Requires excessive admiration

5. Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations

6. Is inter personally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends

7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others

8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her

9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

VISION STATEMENT: We inspire members to not only survive, but THRIVE after abuse and equip them to live their best life possible from here on out.

Group Rules:

#1. Respect everyone in the group as they are here for support, not to be ridiculed. We all have different levels of PAIN we need to work through. One person's solution may not always be the answer for everyone. Be sensitive to others and where they are at in their recovery. This should go without saying, but in case it needs to be said: No gossiping or put downs! Currently there is a total LACK of support groups for survivors like us in the Triangle, so we are going to attract ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE, even survivors that don’t look or sound like you. Love them anyway!

#2. Limit ourselves to one person talking at a time so that each member can speak their truth uninterrupted and the way they need to express themselves. Remember, not everyone is a one take wonder when it comes to leaving their abuser and situations vary greatly among individuals. What worked best for you might not be possible for someone else, and vice versa.

#3. Group is a SAFE place to share; what's said here stays here. Inside these walls and OUTSIDE these walls, so if you see someone from group at the supermarket—don’t comment on how you know them or insist on making conversation in that moment. It may not be safe to do so if another survivor is with someone.

#4. Time limited sharing:

a) New attendees will have the OPTION of sharing first to engage the group in discussion.

b) Please limit your sharing to 3-5 minutes at a time, allowing everyone in the group to share once, before sharing again.

c) No one is allowed to dominate the conversation.

d) Listen to each other and give everyone the opportunity to share.

e) Silence is acceptable. No one has to participate or say anything they do not wish to say. The group is supportive, rather than judgmental.

#5. Exchanging contact info (email/phone/etc.) outside the group must be mutually agreed upon by both parties. If you’re not in a place yet where you’re ready to connect outside Meetup; that’s OKAY!

#6. This is a mutual self-help group, not a therapy group. This group is NOT a replacement for therapy. You should be participating in therapy program with a licensed professional in addition to coming to group.

#7. All new members should submit a profile picture to organizers as a requirement for identity authentication. Pictures won't be shared or used for any other purposes. (This is a private group)

#8. Any member who is not active or has not attended a group meeting in 90 days will be removed from the Survivor list.

Additional Info:

Meetings will be organized around the following schedule: Arrival, sign in/attendance, introductions, review relevant material/article that week, open floor for discussing/sharing/question & answer, dismissal.

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