What we're about

Connecting people in their 20s-40s -any young professionals, students, stay-at-homes, etc who are tired of sitting home watching life go by. Join this group if you're interested in getting out of the house to socialize, make friends and go on fun adventures! Whether it be low-key happy hours, outdoor activities, or extreme sports- we're down to make any events happen! Join if you see anything you like, or if you don't- any suggestions & event hosting opportunities are always welcome! This group is about YOU guys-whatever you want to do, I'm here to make it happen and connect you with other people who enjoy the same!

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Wasn't this group called "xxx"?
A: This group was founded back in 2013. Apparently, it has had different names over the years. The previous name I do know of was "Friends in the Burbs." The current staff changed its name in 2016 when they took over.

Q: Why don't you do meetups in "xxx" anymore?
A: As this is a group staffed by volunteers, we have a revolving roster of hosts. Sometimes we get too busy with work or life. If you'd like to step up and host some events, let us know. For instance, we used to have meetups in Freehold every week. That would be cool if we do them again.

Q: Doesn't meetup cost money? Do I need to pay any dues?
A: Yes and no. Essentially, it costs $15 a month to keep the group open. But some Organizers opt to absorb the costs for you. This is one of those groups. However, there is a that little button on the side which allows you to make a donation. Or you can buy the Organizer a drink the next time you see him.

Q: Is this a group for singles only? 
A: No. Many of the members of this group are in relationships (sometimes with other group members). Couples are always welcome!

Q: Why is there an age limit for this group?
A: When this group got established, there was a dearth of groups which catered to the 20s-30s community. However, there was a plethora of groups which events have members in their late 40s and beyond. I had to set a limit somewhere and that is 1970. While I've made exceptions in the past, this is few and far between.

Q: Why do I see the same event posted in multiple groups.
A: There are several reasons for this:

> 1. The event host happens to be a host in multiple groups and would like to bring different groups of people together for the mutual goal of having fun and making friends. For instance, there might be an event posted in this group which may be posted in another group which tends to attract an older crowd or it may be posted in another group which members mostly live outside of the area or it may be posted in another group which focuses on a particular subject matter.

> 2. The hosts in this group are also good friends with the hosts in another group (as we both share the same goals of having a good time). There is no "us vs them" mentality. In addition, by commingling events, there are hopes that the members of one group get to know the members of another group and maybe join that other group.

> 3. The event is a publicly hosted event. Meaning that unlike, say, a dinner party or a bar night organized by a meetup group, the REAL organizers of the event are those off meetup, such as local businesses or organizations. We try to highlight events offered by the community when possible, like wine tastings, bonfires, festivals, etc. Our free advertisement and attendance is our way to let them know that we appreciate what they're doing. As far as the other groups who posted it, while few believe this frustrates the meetup community because it "lacks originality", the vast majority of the community understand that "great minds think alike" and no one group has dibs on an event they themselves are not even planning! Just note that if you do see an event like this, the host who posted it will be there.

Q: Can I be an event host?
A: Yes. We're always looking to expand our staff! But please note the following rules:

> 1. Please come to some of the other meetups. This will help the members of the group get to know you and get interested in your events.

> 2. Please keep in mind what I wrote above with regards to multi-group postings. That's fine if it's a publicly hosted event, or you're working with another group's host, but please don't post up for someone else's happy hour without their permission.

> 3. Please don't post a meetup which competes with another already posted meetup. For instance, if a meetup has been posted for Bar A, please don't post a meetup at the same time for Watermark. However, exceptions are acceptable if the activity varies. For instance, a meetup for a hike is allowed to occur the same time as a meetup for a movie night, since those are two separate types of activities. 
> 4. If you run an organization in which you have to pay dues, you cannot post an event in this group in which you have to be a member of your organization.

Q: I run "yyy" group. Would you mind if I post your event in my group? Or would you mind if I post my event in your group?
A: We try to co-mingle with the other meetup groups. It's great to bring people together. That being said there are few cases where we might be apprehensive of such collaborations, mainly if your group has a religious or political bias. The idea here is inclusion! Granted, as I mentioned earlier, if there was a publicly hosted event, and your group decides to post for it after this group does, that's your prerogative. It's just that the goal of this group is not to inflict a bias.

Q: I have a problem with "so and so". 
A: Please talk to one of the hosts or organizers. Harassment will not be tolerated. This is important. We have a female Assistant Organizer if you're not comfortable talking to the Organizer or the male Assistant Organizer. If you don't feel comfortable talking to either of us, I've made an account for people to reach out anonymously if they feel they're being harassed, but don't want to reveal their identity. https://ynfnmoco.sarahah.com/

Q: I'm new to meetup! Other than this group what other groups do you recommend?
A: Depending on your location and interests, this can vary. I'll list a few groups whom we've collaborated with in the past and are pretty solid groups (in no order):

> 1. Adventure, Adrenaline, and Novelty
> 2. 20s/30s/40s Social Group
> 3. 20s and 30s - New to NJ (or not)
> 4. Princeton Social Group of the 20s & 30s
> 5. Lets Do Something Different
> 6. Livin Your Best Life

The hosts and organizers of this group are not responsible for any injuries or behavior of any members. You are ultimately attending all events at your own risk and responsibility. Any issues should immediately be reported to the organizers of the group in a private e-mail or message. Please drink responsibly and do not drive while intoxicated.

Upcoming events (4+)

Bar Bella's Latin Night at Bellworks in Holmdel

Bar Bella

Vamos! Lulada Club is back for Latin Night at Bar Bella!
Join us for everyone’s favorite night! Mark your calendar for March 30th from 6:30-9:30pm at Bar Bella!
Come early and grab a drink the bar opens at 4pm!


Create That Party

A Monmouth County native has a great, upscale venue in South Plainfield, NJ where she hosts parties, live music, and brunches. Come out to a “Create That Party” experience on Thurs., Mar. 30th at 7pm that will showcase a local band that will play live R&B music that will have you dancing.


Looking for a grown and sexy night out?

Create that Party presents “R&B Night Live”, the dopest vibe around!

Come through to listen to one of New Jersey's hottest’s R&B bands, Music Café, that will keep you mesmerized and reminiscing by their melodic sound.

Monique Latise, will be performing her stand up comedic act and Darnelle the Brand, our host, will keep everyone on their toes and engaged!

Bring the vibe, catch a vibe, be the vibe. The floor is yours!

R&B Night Live is the night out you don’t want to miss.

Doors Open at 7pm sharp. See you soon!


Guest Band - Music Cafe
Comedian - Monique Latise
Host - Darnelle the Brand


Early Bird Special - $25
General Admission - $35
Group Rates - $225

$40 door fee w/no RSVP if space is still available

Event is BYOB!

No Outside Food Allowed.

Dress Code - No sweatpants or hoodies


Seating is first come, first serve. Reserved seating for group purchases only. We will accommodate seating requests accordingly. There will be no formal dining.
We recommend you arrive before 7:30 PM.

Food & Drinks:

Food, Soft Drinks & Hookah will be available for purchase.

BYOB allowed


TICKET LINK: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/551713248177

Trivia night @ The Ark

The Ark Pub & Eatery

Super fun trivia night + dinner / snacks / drinks at The Ark. If you're interested in joining only for trivia, that's 100% fine as well!

Let's level up our brainpower with some delicious food before playing trivia. The Ark has award winning dishes and over 100 different beers (16 on tap).

Since this is a very popular trivia spot, seats usually fill up quickly. I'll be arriving at 730pm for foods and to secure a table. Trivia starts at 8pm. Hope to see you there! 😊

Menu: https://thearkpubandeatery.com/
Trivia night info: https://m.facebook.com/100043995591562/

Saturday at The Wine Loft (Pier Village, Long Branch)

The Wine Loft

I stopped in here today and made a reservation/gave them a heads up that some of us should be coming in on this day (just have to give them a rough update of people the Wednesday before). I’ve been here a few times before and it’s a nice place to have a drink or 2 and chill. The attire is also on the upscale side so you have to dress a little nicer. Also, parking is free around here (until May 1st). Carl's cell[masked]


Past events (2,129)