Never mind that we’re introverts … it’s tough to make friends as an adult. You may meet nice people with common interests, but how do you keep your new friendships going, especially when we have competing demands on our time?

This event is an experiment of sorts in creating and maintaining a thriving friend group. We’ll start with these premises in mind:

1\. You want a friend group\.
2\. You are willing to stay engaged to maintain a friend group\.
3\. You recognize communication\, consistency\, and kindness are keys to keeping connections active\.
4\. You believe that sometimes friendships take time to form\, even differences among people can be the spark that ignites a friendship\, and sometimes things can get awkward\, but you will nevertheless push through\.
5\. You are willing to offer a topic occasionally\, guide the chat\, and support another host with your engagement\.

Food for thought —
\- what is keeping you from making the friends you want?
\- what would help you make new friends?
\- what have you tried that seems to work well in making and keeping connections?
\- what talents have you uncovered about yourself that will make connections easier?
\- what do you want/need from others?
\- what topics or questions would interest you in discussing? \(Anything\!\)

Some interesting reading can be found in this article:
[https://pdfcoffee.com/paul-sanders-the-advanced-guide-to-making-friendsscpdf-pdf-free.html](https://pdfcoffee.com/paul-sanders-the-advanced-guide-to-making-friendsscpdf-pdf-free.html)

Assuming we will all stay engaged with the group, I’ll plan to add a monthly (or more often!) in-person get-together at a coffee shop or potluck at a library or park. I’m open to your ideas.

I get it — These are big asks of a members who identify as introverts. But, I think we may all be here for the same reason: We are missing solid, meaningful, dependable connections in our lives.

I suspect we each want a steadfast friend(s) to go to in need, to shoot the breeze with, to hang out with planned or spur-of-the-moment — in short, someone who cares that we exist and isn’t afraid to show it — and we are more than willing to provide that source of comfort to others. Let’s change up our approach to meetups to finally make our wishes for deeper friendships come true.

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**Your Socializing Ritual**
Source: Paul Sanders

One reason that gets people to stay lonely for years, is that they only "try" to be social once in a while.

Instead, you need to put some space in your life for social activities. Here is how...

-> ***Timing***: Mark in your calendar the hours of the week in the specific days, that you'll devote to social activity. No distractions allowed, just for socializing.

-> ***Places***: Decide, right now, what places you like to go to on weekends, holidays, during the week if you had the friends you want. You will then be more credible when you suggest plans to people.

-> ***Tricks***: It's hard to pull yourself out of your past habits and meet new people, but you can trick yourself into socializing. Take one interest of yours, then find a club, meetup group, or interest group who meet regularly around that subject. Attend **ALL** meetings. Offer to help manage those meetups.

Learning to make friends quickly, while others struggle with it for years, is a SKILL that takes effort, practice, and determination. Are you ready?

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Join us in this deliberate, hopeful attempt to make new and long-lasting friendships.

Please keep your RSVP up to date and **respond to the question on your chosen discussion topic and the date(s) you’d like to host**. I envision this activity will work *only* if we each play a role in its success.

Hosting a topic might just mean you introduce the topic, ask a question here or there, or make a comment to generate more conversation.

I’m eager to see where this experiment takes us! See you soon.☺️

Link to event:
[https://meet.google.com/yvc-nhty-zig](https://meet.google.com/yvc-nhty-zig)
(exp 6/17/2024)

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