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Re: [actmodels] About [anyone] removing people from meetup

From: Ella
Sent on: Thursday, October 22, 2009 1:24 PM
At 12:20 22/10/2009, you wrote:
>When I complained, giving the feedback she was asking for, I have 
>been immediately removed from the meetup and my comment deleted.
>Any member should feel free to give honest feedback without being 
>removed, this is the essence of the correct working of a meetup, 
>and, I'd say, of society in general.
>She was just afraid that other people could awake and realise that 
>the events were not really worth the money spent.

It's really not specific to a certain person.  There are, 
unfortunate, personalities in the world, that when they get to a 
position of assumed power, demonstrated poor social, management and 
interpersonal skills.

An Organizer of another group removed me when I replied, for the 
first time ever suggesting that there was a great way to gain 
credible exposure for the members of the group, given the groups desires.

A couple of people associated with me when to the groups first 
meeting and was shocked at the total lack of concern for a 
professional outcome.  Even if it's amateur.  What was demonstrated 
was in confidence, a lack of skills management, and 'I'm the Boss' mentality.

But don't worry.  Meetup groups are not the only place I experience 
this phenomenon.  People are often promoted (or elect themselves) to 
positions of their highest level of incompetence.

I see this in Schools, Government, Business, everywhere.

A person who is always calling staff to meetings is usually not a 
very good manager.  A person who lectures to the team and doesn't 
allow, or belittles feedback criticism or input, is not a good manager.

My recommendation, even if this is in your full time job, move on and 
leave the person to their demise.

Most are either category 4-9 Narcissists or worse, Sub Clinical 
Psychopaths.  Once you become their target, it's very hard to shake 
them, even if you leave a group or business.

The best managers are people who motivate others to excel and 
succeed.  Often o out of their way to meet with staff/team members 
individually and find out about their experiences with a view to 
either taking advice from competent staff, or creating solutions, to 
problems that are raised.

THE BEST Manager is someone who employ', or gathers around him/her, 
people who are FAR MORE SKILLED then him/herself.

Sadly most people are jealous and envious of others and will focus on 
protecting their butts at the demise of loosing higher skilled and 
quality people in their midst.

I always promote people to their highest level of skill, even if I 
have no clue what they are doing.  If someone is a better manager 
than me, they get the job, I have no ego damage in stepping aside or 
down a little.  I can only learn.

So don't worry if people remove you from meetup groups.  You really 
don't want to hang around those kinds of people anyway.

Be more concerns if an Organizer contacts you wanting to have a 
discussion!  It usually means you're getting a promotion to ORGANIZE things.


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