Adoptee Healing + Support Zoom Call

Each call begins with the host, Ali Jameson, leading a brief grounding exercise + asking all participants if they agree with the following Community Container Agreements so that we co-create a space for everyone to feel safe + supported. We then share about whatever is present for us.

Community Container Agreements (are what we as a group aspire + aim towards while understanding that we are all humans on ongoing learning/unlearning processes + we are all walking our own unique healing journeys):
*We are 100% committed to our healing as adoptees + as human beings
*This is a consciously created safe, nonjudgmental space rooted in unconditional love where any + all adoptees are welcome
*We enter this space learning to accept ourselves + others just as they are. We accept + respect how we (as an individual) + each participant chooses to show up on any given day honoring their full human experience
*We all come to this space to learn, to give + receive support, + to love one another
*In this community we do not judge or drop anyone because of their beliefs or stance, we learn to accept, acknowledge, + understand while connecting to our hearts, love, + oneness
*We respect one another’s privacy + experiences. What is shared here stays here + we do not share what is said here outside of this space
*We speak for ourselves only
*We do not interrupt one another or correct one another
*This is a listening space similar to a classroom, filled with questions + curiosity
*No fixing, rescuing, advice giving - unless asked for, complaining, killing someone’s experience
*We intend to hold this community rooted in an awareness of our personal + collective commitments to liberatory relationships, honoring at all times our responsibilities as a community that welcomes people from all races + ancestry. This especially means that in our adoptee circle we are committed to the work of creating safe space for people of color by being present to name + address whiteness relational dynamics whenever they show up. We are committed to doing so in a way that always honors everyone’s full humanity, personal safety, + dignity.
*In this community there is zero tolerance for hate or discrimination of any form including blind hatred of race, religion, gender, politics, or sexual orientation. (Hate is defined as any form of bigotry, prejudice, racism, sexism, xenophobia, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, antisemitism, islamophobia, etc). If any form of hate comes up we will address it by immediately stopping the hate/discrimination action + the create space to address the incident in community with safety + accountability for all in order to reach an agreed upon solution on how to move forward
*We are here to hold the topic of adoption as adoptees however the spectrum of human experience is huge + many other aspects of our individual lived experiences will always naturally emerge during the call. With us co-creating a space for open dialogue there may be times where a topic or conversation may activate/trigger/agitate a participant. Any activation/trigger/agitation is an opportunity for that person to initiate some self-exploration + can request a pause + group support for that, or pause + express the need to exit the call for the moment to tend to self-care outside of the call space. It is the responsibility of the activated/triggered participant to understand in the moment where they are mentally, emotionally, + somatically in order to kindly respect themselves and all community members. It is up to the participant to choose to reach out for help or politely excuse themself from the conversation
*We are here to hold all complexity that might emerge in our sharing with the safety of knowing that we will be supported by one another without any type of harmful relational dynamics occurring when complexity emerges. Some examples of the types of dynamics we do not engage with in our group are abruptly dropping the call, lashing out, escapism, blame, or shame