Alto Matchmaking Events

Dating in Berlin can feel overwhelming, especially when you're far from home and from your support network, and still building your sense of belonging. If you've ever left a date wondering "Why am I doing this again?", this workshop is for you.

This cosy guided afternoon is designed to help you slow down, get clear on what you truly want, and rediscover how to approach dating from a more confident place that reflects a healthy sense of self-worth.

This is definitely not another lecture on "how to flirt better" or a speed dating event. It's a guided and informed reset with expert facilitators who will lead you in self-reflection and self-care.

What you'll experience

Guided breathwork & somatic awareness to calm your body and mind, and reconnect with yourself.
Dating insights from a professional matchmaker on patterns, self-worth, and dating in Berlin's international scene.
Reflection exercise to uncover your core values and rewire your approach to dates.
Honest, facilitated conversation about gender expectations, social pressure, and boundaries.
Healthy refreshments to nourish your mind and body.
Self-care gift bag featuring local brands.

Hosted by

Alysia Tofflemire - Germany's first certified matchmaker and founder of Alto Matchmaking. Helping expats and internationally-minded singles date with confidence, honesty, and intention.
Alan Conlon - Facilitator & Founder of Pathway to Freedom Mentoring. Guiding people toward embodied awareness and deeper emotional presence.

IMPORTANT: You are encouraged to bring your own yoga mat, where possible. A limited amount of mats will be available on-site for those who cannot provide their own.

Let's talk about the way we connect as humans in the modern world.

In a world where dating apps, shifting identities, and global mobility are reshaping how we connect, what does it really mean to build relationships - romantic or otherwise - that feel authentic, rewarding, and sustainable?
Join Alysia Tofflemire, Berlin-based certified matchmaker and founder of Alto Matchmaking, and Tess Mueske, LGBTQ+ matchmaker based in Madrid, for a live fireside chat about rethinking relationship expectations in the modern world.
Together, we’ll unpack how ideas about love, partnership, and friendship evolve - especially for expats and queer communities navigating new cultures, distances, and definitions of connection.

What to Expect
✨ An honest conversation about what we expect from partners and friends, and how those expectations serve (or limit) us.
🪞 Journaling prompts throughout the session to help you explore your own relationship patterns and desires. Make sure you bring a pen and paper!
💭 Q&A space to ask questions or share reflections live (optional).
🌈 LGBTQ+ inclusive & globally minded discussion - all are welcome.

Event Details
Thursday, December 4
6:00–7:00 PM CET (Online via Zoom)

Who it's for
This conversation is for anyone who’s ever questioned:

• What “relationships” actually mean today
• How to identify and communicate your boundaries in relationships
• Why friendships can feel just as important (and complex) as romantic relationships
• How to unlearn expectations that no longer fit, and how to protect your energy

Whether you’re single, partnered, exploring, or redefining - this space is for reflection, not judgement.

Your Hosts
Alysia Tofflemire (Berlin)
Certified Matchmaker & Founder of Alto Matchmaking, helping expats and internationally minded singles build meaningful connections rooted in self-worth and shared values.
Tess Mueske (Madrid)
LGBTQ+ matchmaker, passionate about helping queer and globally mobile people build authentic, emotionally rich relationships.