This Is Not the Village I Asked For: A Digital Conversation

It takes a village, but where is it?
Too many of us are mothering alone, carrying more than we ever should have had to. In the space between what we need and what we’ve been given, there’s grief, anger, and deep longing.

This Space is for you if you’re tired of doing it all alone.
Together, we’ll name the gap between expectation and reality, mourn the support that never arrived, and imagine the kind of care we actually need.
We’ll reflect on:

• What would a true village look like?

How It Works

• Free and confidential – hosted on Totem’s secure platform
• Guided sharing – everyone gets a turn, no pressure to overshare
• Family-friendly – babies, toddlers, and background noise welcome

Meet Your Host
Hi, I’m Heather—Asheville-based mom of two, full-time Totem team member, and passionate believer in Spaces where moms can be real, seen, and supported.

Sign up at totem.org for the best experience (it’s free!)