What we’re about
Explore conscious connection, authentic consent, empowered boundaries, and nurturing touch! We all need touch and affection.
There’s no question about it. Nurturing, welcome, consensual touch is good for your body, your heart, and your spirit. Your nervous system, blood pressure, and emotional health all benefit from healthy, heart-full touch! Safe touch also enhances your ability to connect with and trust people, your capacity to respect and care for yourself, your creativity, and your sense of safety, comfort, and belonging.
Though touch is natural, the skills that make it welcome and enjoyable need to be learned and practiced. Skills of communication, boundaries, asking for what you want, and saying ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ with clarity and kindness.
**These are drug & alcohol free events. Please respect this intention.**
For more info on Asheville area cuddle events and private snuggle sessions check out http://holdmeavl.com/
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Community Snuggles Sep 19thNeeds location
Please note- If you want to attend this event you need to purchase a ticket- We advertise in many places and only paid tickets will reserve your space. Click HERE to register!
This is a non-sexual touch based event that invites participants to explore platonic intimacy in a safe environment with like-minded people. We respect personal boundaries and through a supportive framework of mutual agreements that maximize safety and create a space of easy openness and compassionate connection.
At this event we have the chance to normalize touch with clear boundaries; this is a space for respectful, consent-based touch. We allow ourselves to be seen. We have fun.
We welcome people of all backgrounds, genders, ethnicities, relationship styles, sexualities, sizes, and ages (18+).THE RULES
1. Clothes stay on for the whole event.
2. You do not have to touch anyone at this event.
3. You must receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone.
4. Take care of yourself and those you choose to interact with.
5. Speak up if you have a question, concern, or if you need assistance with anything during the event.
6. All emotions are welcome- we love vulnerability.
WHY CUDDLE?
Touch is a basic human need, and many of us do not get enough; most people don’t even know they are missing touch, or have a way to ask for touch without sexualizing it. We believe deeply in the power of touch, and the importance of communication and consent in creating a safe space for touch.
CUDDLING WITH STRANGERS
Cuddling with strangers sounds weird or scary to most people. “Will I like it?” “What if someone wants to touch me and I don’t want to?” “What if I say yes and it’s not what I want?” “What if I really want to touch someone and they say no?” These are all normal questions. The answer is that this is a space created to ask for exactly what you want, and receive NOTHING you don’t want. Many people start out nervous at a cuddle event & most are really glad they came.Schedule:
6:45-7pm: Arrive with snacks to share! Get comfortable, meet, mingle, & snack.
7:05pm: Welcome Circle- its mandatory. We will set our container, talk about personal boundaries, communication, & consent.
7:15pm: Icebreakers and connective activities.
8:00pm: Open cuddling! You MUST ask and get a verbal ‘yes’ before touching or cuddling with anybody at this event. If you are not sure how to do this – great! – we will talk about it during the welcome circle.
10:50pm: Closing Circle, cleanup and head home.
ETIQUETTE- ARRIVE ON TIME: It is important that all participants arrive before the Welcome Circle. The Welcome Circle serves the purpose of creating the safe space for consensual, non-sexual touch between participants and making sure that everyone is informed about consent.
- Please arrive clean & as scent free as possible.
- BE SOBER: Please do not drink or smoke before or at this event.
WHAT TO BRING: personal water bottle and snacks to share, a friend, a date – whatever cuddle accessories you like! The only thing that you are required to bring is a clean and sober you.
These events are not "gender balanced".
We take individual and group safety seriously! If you experience, see, or know that one of our participants is not safe to be at this event we want to know about it. We are committed to doing our best to create a safe environment which means that if someone is causing harm (physical or mental) that person is not welcome here (this includes harm that takes place outside of our events). We stand behind survivors and know that some of our participants are here to heal from touch based trauma.
*refund policy-
Full refund if you cancel 7 days before the event or you cancel due to illness, emergency, or direct exposure to covid/flu.
Credit towards a future event if you cancel more than 3 days before an event.
No refund if you cancel within 2 days of the event or no-show. - An Evening of Sensual Snuggles- Sep 20thAsheville, Asheville, NC
RSVPs here do not represent who has signed up as we advertise in multiple places and often sell out of tickets.
Click HERE to REGISTER!!!!What is a Sensual Snuggle Event?
This is a sweet & welcoming event where we practice and use verbal consent to connect and share touch. We talk about boundaries and practice both saying and receiving a “no”. In this space it is common to see people cuddle, share massage, have their hair brushed, kiss, expose nipples, play, laugh, cry, and be vulnerable. This is a sober space where we can relax and connect with other humans who are seeking touch based connection.
We strive for this to be a safe event. Safe touch enhances our ability to connect with and trust people. When we are in a space of safety, we are able to relax, feel comfort, and be vulnerable.Our Agreements:
1- We ask for what we want an wait for a yes before touching others.
2- We say no if we don’t want to do something.
3- We try to receive a no with grace and not take it personally.
4- We arrive on time, clean (as scent free as possible), and sober.
5- We keep our pants/shorts on at this event. (Tops are optional; this is a sensual space, not a sexual space.)
6- We are here to connect with others. Connection can be verbal, platonic, or spicy!
7- We welcome diversity. Isms and Phobias are not welcome here!Who should attend:
People who are interested in safely exploring touch and sensuality with strangers. This includes people who are single, people who are not single, couples, folks who are new to town and looking for connection, people of all/any genders and sexual orientations, people of all ages (18 and up). People who understand and respect consent, who will take care of themselves and people around them. This event is queer-normative. The guest list will include all genders, orientations, ages, and personalities. If that’s not your thing… This is not the event for you.
Who should NOT attend:
-People who are only looking for a sex party.
-People who do not understand and respect consent.
-People who have extreme fear of setting and speaking their personal boundaries; in order to create a safe space we need to know that you will say “no” if you feel a no.
-People who are homophobic, racist, sexist, ageist, ableist…
-People under 18 years of age.
Schedule of the Evening- 6:45pm Doors Open, Mix & Mingle
- 7:00pm We gather in a circle to meet each other, build a container, cover consent and boundary setting and discuss event agreements. Then we will play a few intimacy building games to meet and connect with other people in the room. Please make sure you arrive on-time!
- 8:15pm Once the container is built we will have self directed snuggling and sensual interactions until the end of the party.
- 10:50pm Closing Circle; a time to re-center and connect as a group to verbally share anything that came up at the event or to voice gratitude to someone(s) you enjoyed interacting with.
- 11:00pm cleanup & head home; you are welcome to help.
We take individual and group safety seriously! If you experience, see, or know that one of our participants is not safe to be at this event we want to know about it. We are committed to doing our best to create a safe environment which means that if someone is causing harm (physical or mental) that person is not welcome here (this includes harm that takes place outside of our events). We stand behind survivors and know that some of our participants are here to heal from touch based trauma.
These events are not "gender balanced". Check out our website for more information about this decision.
Simple definitions/clarifications-
Platonic- marked by the absence of romance or sex.
Most of the interactions we have with friends and strangers are platonic.
Sensual- gratification of the senses or the indulgence of appetite.
We might feel sensual when we feel someone's breath on our neck or experience a extra long and slow caress.
Sexual- having or involving sex.
Often involving one more more peoples genitals; perhaps seeking orgasm.
*Refund Policy- Full refund if you cancel 7 days before the event or you cancel due to illness, emergency, or direct exposure to covid. Credit towards a future event if you cancel more than 3 days before an event. No refund if you cancel within 2 days of the event or no-show.
