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What Does It Mean To Be Your Best Self?

Congratulations! You’ve decided you want to be your best self… Now what! What does it actually mean to be your best self? How will you know you’re moving in the right direction? How do you know if something really is your best?

Good news, we’re going to explore this topic through discussions, activities and reflections.

As far as your ‘best self’ goes, there is no one-size-fits-all definition. Instead, the description is entirely personal. Your best self will never be the same as someone else’s - so resist the temptation to go down the comparison route. That never feels good! Instead, remember that we’re all different. We all have different talents, skills, challenges, and journeys. So when it comes to defining your best self, know that you get to choose what that means for yourself.

Better still, your definition doesn’t need to be fixed in stone. Instead, it will almost certainly change over time. As you achieve goals, check through your bucket list, and revise your ambitions, you’ll uncover more and more about who you really are. 
And as a result, your best self definition will expand.

I think that’s one of the most beautiful things about being human. We’re never really ‘done’. There’s always more we could do and explore. In short, our comfort zones can expand infinitely, which makes your best self a journey, NOT a destination. That’s right; there’s nowhere specific you need to reach because your best self is a state of BEING.

More About Me, Alika Victor
I am excited and thrilled every time I can assist someone in improving their work and home relationships, careers, and day-to-day lives. Through the content, format and topics chosen for this Meetup, I aim to help you be the best possible version of yourself today and tomorrow.

Certifications I Possess to Assist You to Be Your Best

  • Mastermind Facilitator - Since 2016
  • Life Coach Certified - Since 2016
  • DISC Profile Certified - Since 2016
  • Real Colors Certified - Since 2016
  • ACE Group Fitness Instructor - Completed Study, Exam Scheduled Oct 2022
  • ACE Health & Wellness Coach - Underway 2022

Meetup Participants Informed Consent Notice

Alika Victor is the facilitator of the Be Your Absolute Best Meetup with the mission and intent of providing information on topics that can help individuals be their best at work and home.  All participants who join this meetup acknowledge that different topics that represent one’s home and work life (work, finances, health, wellness, activity, self-care, goals, intentions, etc) are offered as meetup talks for educational and information purposes only.  Participants are also aware that topics and meetup talks are in no way to be construed or substituted as psychology counseling or any other type of therapy or medical advice.

By joining this meetup, participant accepts that all topics, materials and formats used by Alika Victor, Guest Speakers, Partners are providing information “as is” without warranty of any kind, either expressed or implied.  It is the responsibility of the participant to create their own results and to make their own informed decision about all the material that is provided by Alika Victor, Guest Speakers and Partners.

Upcoming events (4+)

Partner Virtual Talk: Why Do We Behave the Way We Do?

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Action for Happiness Org is hosting another one of their incredible Talks!

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Why Do We Behave the Way We Do?
We all want to understand ourselves and others better. But it can often feel like we're missing the key pages of life's instruction manual!

At this special event, needs expert Alice Sheldon will share a fresh approach for finding answers and building positive relationships, which she calls "Needs Understanding". It’s based on one simple but profound idea: we’re all on a quest to meet our underlying human needs – such as belonging, knowing we matter or feeling appreciated. These needs matter deeply because they impact how happy we feel, whether we thrive at work and how we respond to the society around us.

So whether you're trying to make a tricky decision, communicate more effectively or enhance your relationships, Alice's ideas will really help. You'll learn how understanding needs can transform your life and bring more understanding and connection with others.

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About the Speaker

Alice Sheldon works with organizations and teams as a trainer and mentor to share the unique insights from Needs Understanding. She is author of Why Weren’t We Taught This at School?: The surprisingly simple secret to transforming life’s challenges. Alice was previously a secondary school teacher, a barrister and the Chief Exec of a national charity. She has an MA in Psychology and Neuroscience from the University of Oxford and is a Certified Trainer in Nonviolent Communication. She developed a model of partnership parenting and has worked with hundreds of parents to create thriving relationships with their children.

The event will be hosted by Dr Mark Williamson from Action for Happiness.

Get Started with Mindfulness

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Using mindfulness to benefit your mental well-being doesn’t have to be hard if you practice, avoid pressuring yourself, and find a style that works for you.

Between hectic work schedules, daily chores, and making time for friends and family, there’s plenty of stress to go around. Anyone can benefit from simple strategies to cope with some of the pressure.

Not sure if mindfulness is worth your time? Or do you feel overwhelmed by the options out there? Beginner’s mindfulness doesn’t have to be complicated.

Mindfulness has so many benefits — from helping relieve stress to improving overall happiness and life satisfaction. And there are plenty of ways to add this kind of practice into your life so you can have a little fun experimenting.

What is mindfulness?
The concept is simple. “Mindfulness is awareness, which comes from paying attention to what’s going on in and around us,” explains Ed Halliwell, a mindfulness teacher based in Sussex, UK, who leads classes in-person and online.

“It means tuning into the experience of our bodies and minds with a warm-hearted curiosity, and learning and acting on what we discover — with the intention to live life as fully, wisely, and compassionately as possible,” he says.

According to Jon Kabat-Zinn, renowned professor and founder of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Clinic, there are nine principal attitudes or ‘pillars’ to mindfulness:

  • acceptance
  • being nonjudgmental
  • trust
  • patience
  • letting go
  • gratitude
  • not striving for a goal
  • generosity
  • having a beginner’s mind

How do I practice mindfulness?
There are a zillion other exercises and meditations you can try be mindful. Remember that sense of “Oh, I’m watching a movie,” and use it to watch your breath, a flower, an ant, or even a headache, a work meeting, a household conversation. No matter what it is, simply pay attention, on purpose, and non-judgmentally.

Meetup Talk Objectives
We will learn and practice during the call 3 simple steps to incorporating a mindfulness practice into your life.

  1. Awareness
  2. Clarity
  3. Choice

Awareness
Through regular practice, mindfulness brings to light our habitual patterns – the good ones, the bad ones, the conscious ones, and the unconscious ones – and gives us the option to change them.

Clarity
Many people, like to jump quickly to action, which is step three, CHOICE. First, make sure to take time for the most crucial step, step two, CLARITY. If you If you stay in curiosity for long enough, withholding your impulse to act, react, or fix it, you will eventually have an “a-ha!” moment where you “get it” and a deep sense of Clarity emerges. You will understand your patterns and habits in a deeper and more profound way than you had before and you will know what to do.

Choice
You now have Awareness of a habit, Clarity in understanding the root of that habit, and are finally ready for Choice. Now is the time to consider: “Do I wish to do what I always do here or would it be better to do something different?” And, if you choose “different” ask, “What is a better way of responding right now?” “How do I want to be, act, or respond in this situation?” “Who is the person I wish to be in this moment?” Any questions work. The point being to consider your typical behavior and what you would like to replace it with.

Partner Virtual Talk: Resilient Wellbeing

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Action for Happiness Org is hosting another one of their incredible Talks!

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Want to Thrive, Not Just Survive?
With the world around us feeling so unstable, it’s vital to grow our inner strengths like self-worth, patience, kindness and joy. This inner resilience is the foundation for lasting well-being in a changing world.
At this special event, psychologist and best-selling author Dr Rick Hanson will share a unique blend of neuroscience, mindfulness, and practical psychology to help you deal better with stress and pursue your goals with a sense of capability and contentment.

Rick will provide practical suggestions to grow your inner strengths - like grit, gratitude, and compassion – and help you to build resilient wellbeing, whatever life throws at you.

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About the Speaker

Dr Rick Hanson is a psychologist, best-selling author and Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley. His books have been published in 30 languages and his free weekly newsletter has 250,000 subscribers. Rick has lectured at NASA, Google, Oxford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centres worldwide. An expert on positive neuroplasticity, his work has been featured on the BBC, CBS and NPR. Rick began meditating in 1974 and is the founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. He loves wilderness and taking a break from emails. His latest book is Resilient: How to grow an unshakeable core of calm, strength and happiness.

The event will be hosted by Dr Mark Williamson from Action for Happiness.

5 Ways to Discipline Your Disappointment

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Everyone faces disappointments in life, small, medium and large. While it is certainly important to acknowledge your disappointments and not just ignore them, the more important question is how do you do it effectively, without ruminating about them too long where they spill over into other parts of your life and relationships? The answer lies in learning constructive ways to acknowledge and process disappointments. Disappointment can help build up character and patience if you allow it to. Learning to deal with your disappointments constructively can make you a stronger person in the end.

One of the first things you will need to do in learning to deal with disappointment better is to recognize your old coping strategies. Everyone has them. Do you reach for a pint of your favorite ice cream or withdraw into a room all alone? Do you get drunk and try to forget? Once you have learned to recognize your old strategy and accept that it is not working, it is now time to create a new one.

Meetup Talk Objectives
Learn about 5 ways to discipline your disappointment
1. Acknowledge what you are feeling.
2. Put and keep things in perspective.
3. Do not doubt yourself.
4. Look for solutions or compromises.
5. Reassess and make adjustments, if necessary.

More Details on the 5 Ways We Will Chat About

1. Acknowledge what you are feeling. You can honestly express the emotions that you are experiencing feeling without blaming others or punishing everyone in sight. This is about how you feel about the situation, not about other people. Articulate your feelings without attacking others. Always be respectful, but do not be afraid to let them know precisely how you feel.

2. Put and keep things in perspective. Even the tiniest of disappointments can seem monumental at first. But once you have expressed your hurt, frustration, or anger, take a step back and look at the larger picture. How much of an effect is this disappointment going to have on you tomorrow, next week, or next year?

3. Do not doubt yourself. Sometimes disappointment can make you feel like a total failure. You may wonder why these things “keep” happening to you, or you may begin to think that you were not being wise to get your hopes up in the first place. But none of that is the truth! Do not succumb to this thinking. Do not allow yourself to give in to these negative thoughts!

4. Look for solutions or compromises. Contrary to popular belief, you cannot have your way all the time, but often there will be a second option that is agreeable to each party.

5. Reassess and make adjustments, if necessary. Sometimes when you experience disappointment, it may be a sign that you need to re-examine your priorities. Depending upon the degree of disappointment that you are facing, you may need to make minor or major changes to your life. Learn to be flexible. Refocusing your attention on your new goals will help you work through your disappointment.

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