Learn About the "Let Them" aka ACT Theory
Details
Have you heard of the ‘let them theory’? When US podcast host Mel Robbins posted about the mindset hack on her Instagram, the video went stratospheric, with over 20 million views, 1.5 million likes, and tens of thousands of comments. But why?
“If your friends are not inviting you out to this weekend, let them. If the person that you're attracted to is not interested in a commitment, let them,” Mel says in the clip. “So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations.”
Background
There is no Let Them Theory yet there is Acceptance and Commitment Theory (ACT). “We often feel the urge to control or persuade people to be who we want them to be, in part because we think that is the right thing to do, and in part because we want to manage our own anxiety and uncertainty that arises around other people's behavior, says Dr Mort.
“The issue is, when we try to shape other people’s behavior, we often end up disappointed, frustrated and exhausted. We lose sight of our own lives, and what we can actually control. This technique proposes that by letting things and people be, we can find peace and freedom, whilst improving the quality of our relationships.”
Meetup Agenda
- Acceptance Meditation
- Introduce Let Them Theory (Acceptance and Commitment Theory ACT)
- How this Might Show Up at Home
- Can this be done at Work?
- Share Your Challenges & Thoughts with Friends
- Share 1-2 Ways You Might Incorporate ACT in Your Life
- Closing Thoughts & Meditation