Virtual Chat: "We don't do that" and why that thinking gets in the way

Let's chat!

Ever feel like there's some unspoken script you're supposed to be following that controls what you should and shouldn't do as a black queer person?

This month's virtual chat prompt:

"We don't do that." What assumptions about how we're supposed to show up get in the way of our self-discovery?

We'll start the convo at 7:30pm and close by 8pm.

Review our community norms to have a sense of what to expect:
I agree to take care of this space with my words and actions and hold myself accountable by living up to these norms:

• Opt in. I choose to be a part of this volunteer-led, community-organized meetup group. I understand that there are no fees or dues and that there is no single person who has authority over others. I show up conscious of the value I bring.
• Affirm that a healthy community includes respectful disagreement, and work to encourage that practice by cultivating my own curiosity and capacity for deep listening.
• Bring my most healed self to this community, resisting the urge to revert to coping mechanisms that harm myself or others. When I mess up, I resist the urge to shame or blame myself or others.
• Advocate for what I need as a fellow collaborator who is willing to be a part of the solution, whether that’s through thoughtful and constructive feedback, logistical support, or something else.
• Push against harmful beliefs and systems, including but not limited to racism, white supremacy, ableism, fatphobia, colorism, classism, xenophobia, transphobia, homophobia, and misogynoir.