I want to throw my two cents in for whatever it's worth. I think the important questions to be asking are not whether or not misogyny is any more or less prevalent within the community of unbelief or how failure to pick up on social ques impacts that (although I must say, Catherine, I very much enjoyed your paper). I think the broader point is to recognize that we are all part of a culture that teaches "don't get raped" rather than "don't rape." We're slightly outside of the mainstream but not isolated from those pernicious influences. Specifically as men we should be asking ourselves how do we create the inclusive culture, dissuade ourselves and others from reverting to idiotic sexist attacks/behavior and ensure that the realities of the atheist community in principle and practice live up to our highest ideals.