What we’re about
Welcome!
I’ve been meaning to start this group for a long time — wondering if people beyond my circle of private clients and close friends would be as drawn to exploring what it means to engineer a bit more sanity, clarity, and creative strength in a world going a little mad.
Maybe all those years of reluctance had their place. But one thing’s for sure: my students and clients are transforming, and since I only care about creativity and supporting others I can reach, I’m opening the doors to a training ground.
A place where a minority of individuals, creatives, and high performers stop wasting time rehearsing bullshit tension, distorted masculinity or femininity, and the helpless hopelessness of unfulfilling relationships.
This is for those who no longer buy into the idea that they’re broken or need fixing.
It’s for those who want to investigate what’s already happening — in real-time — but going completely unnoticed: the subtle distortions, inherited shame loops, chronic protective postures, and inner compulsions that keep your agency shut down and your body armored against ease.
You’ll have the option to engage with two highly complementary, pioneering protocols designed for real transformation.
When interwoven in a steady twice-weekly rhythm, they provide powerful nervous system support to cultivate earned secure attachment and embodied, responsive presence — instead of the reactive cycles you’re likely exhausted by.
Some legitimacy in today’s rampant self-proclaimed climate:
- 🧘 Ancient meditative disciplines
- 🌬️ Subtle breath & mindfulness practices
- 🔋 Bioenergetics & emotional metabolization
- 🛡️ Dan P. Brown’s 3-Pillar Protocol for healing adult attachment disturbances
They’re not remedial. This isn’t “fixing.”
This is work that deactivates hypervigilance, rewires outdated protection strategies, and allows your core strengths — the ones buried under years of fear, fawning, or freeze — to emerge.
Common Patterns We Work With:
“I don’t know what I like.”
“I always follow someone else’s lead — I don’t trust my own compass.”
“I can explore, but I can’t accept messing up.”
“I get success — but it feels hollow.”
“I check out mid-conversation. I can’t stay with what’s happening.”
“I want to go for it, but fear of judgment stops me.”
“I procrastinate on what matters most, even when I care.”
“I feel cramped in my own skin. Conflict terrifies me. I can’t regulate or focus.”
This is for you if:
• You’ve already started taking responsibility — but are ready for depth
• You’re curious about what’s underneath your patterns, not just how to cope
• You suspect your “problems” are also clues to your unique power
• You’re tired of bypassing and ready to feel without being consumed
• You want supportive challenge, not passive agreement
• You know life is about relationship — and you’re open to new ways of relating
• You want to move from “knowing better” to living differently
Testimonials
“It’s become more and more clear to me over the past few months how important the work was. It was deep and laborious, but it helped me build an incredibly strong foundation. It was transformational.”
— Nathan S
“Joe allowed me to connect to myself and go beyond myself in a truly impactful way.”
— Liat G
“Gentle, yet effective guidance through many deep and active issues in real-time. Joe sees strengths and blind spots with precision — while staying open to surprise.”
— Josh
“A lot of wisdom and extreme skill at diagnosing what I need — and empowering me to grow.”
— Aasheesh Paliwal
“Joe will guide you through the deeper undiscovered chasms of dysfunction — the ones other methods miss.”
— Ryan
What We’ll Train Together:
• 🔍 The behavioral signs of attachment wounding you didn’t know had names
• ♻️ Why you keep repeating the same relational patterns (even after all that work)
• 🪞 How to build earned secure attachment through daily, embodied practice — not talk
Did you know?
Research shows cultivating earned secure attachment typically takes 40–150 sessions — not because you’re broken, but because the relational nervous system needs time, pattern, and consistency to update.
That’s deeply impressive. This means in under three years, you can build a new internal foundation that no longer defaults to:
- Neediness
- Shutdown or distancing
- Hyper-morality or collapse
- Passivity, volatility, oversharing
- Helplessness or control-as-safety
All while avoiding waisting your time (decades) money and energy in ineffective routes.
So ask yourself:
How much time have you already spent in loops that never truly stabilized you?
You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have it all figured out.
Just bring your breath, your body, and the part of you that’s ready to stop rehearsing pain.
We’ll train the rest together.
See you in the dojo,
Joseph