Cape Town Fun, Food, and Fitness

This group is a safe space to make friends. If you want to talk to people, please come to events, do not direct message them. Any inappropriate behaviour will not be tolerated. Please ensure you join the group before attending. Events are for members only!!!

We gather to enjoy conversations over food, watch movies or theatre productions. We explore the arts and entertainment scene. Connect with fellow members who enjoy the same.

If you have any questions or concerns, or suggestions for events, drop me (Liz) a message.

A follow-up reminder on consent......
I know - most of you get this, and I've had great fun with people in this group so far - long may it continue.

Please consider the following guide - as a woman in my '40's I would not approach one of the younger men in their '20's suggesting we hang out. We are not in the same phase of life. I have great chats with these lads during the group, and I love the way the group can bring people together who might not usually spend time together. That's where it stays, though, in the group.

When the genders are reversed, this should be even more the case. When men meet women, their biggest concern is if they might say something silly. We worry about being murdered. The stakes are not the same. Please consider this when you pursue group members to hang out another time. What to you can seem harmless might cause significant anxiety.
If you do request a hangout, it's worth using this:
Maybe = No
Let's see what happens = No
I'm not sure = No
Silence = No
Yes, and only yes = yes

Women are raised to be people pleasers, and we are often accustomed to volatile responses from men when we say no. For these reasons, women can be anxious to refuse. Ladies - I do encourage you to set boundaries; there's nothing wrong with saying you would rather stick to seeing people in the group. Gents - if someone gives out their number and then doesn't reply - you have your answer, move on. And before that even happens, think about it - is it appropriate to ask this person to hang out? Could it make them uncomfortable? Of course, these questions apply to all of us, regardless of gender.

I hope this helps us work to the same expectations so everyone feels safe. If you have any questions, please do speak to me. I have totally hung out with people outside of the group, and it's been super fun. I am not trying to control friendships, just offer guidance on where to pursue them.

Thanks for listening!!
Liz