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Re: [homebirth-65] EMERGENT HELP NEEDED - Mom in Need

From: meg
Sent on: Friday, January 9, 2009 6:15 PM
Hi Gina,   
    If there is no medical justification for the Dr's change of heart, your friend may have the option of calling her insurance company and pleading her case.  (Extenuating circumstances to change providers).  Also, no insurer wants to pay for an unnecessary C-Section....  Unfortunately, they also don't want to be sued for sticking their noses out, but they may contact the Dr as an intermediary.  This can work as a stall technique and let your Dr know you are willing to put up a loud fight.  Also, if he is practicing at a hospital, you can request a meeting with the hospital's patient advocate, and don't be afraid to work the chain of command through the patient advocate.  Again, not likely to do much other than put another hitch is his giddy up but sometimes that is all it takes. 
    Remember, she is paying him for his service, he is not in charge, she are paying him as a consultant to your care!  Your friend has the right to say, "Thank you very much for your opinion, goodbye!"  If a mechanic is insisting on doing a repair despite your outright objection, you find a new mechanic!  Even if you "trusted" your mechanic all along, it is time to find a new mechanic.  What he is doing is the ultimate breach of trust, especially if part of the reason the Dr was initially trusted is because he was going to give her a trial of labor. 
    Definitely check out her options through ICAN, they have a lot of great advice and resources!  Please let us know what happens and I hope for the best for your friend.  Meg 


From: Gina C-C <[address removed]>
To: [address removed]
Sent: Thursday, January 8,[masked]:28:16 PM
Subject: [homebirth-65] EMERGENT HELP NEEDED - Mom in Need

I'm sorry to email the mailing list like this, but I'm determined to help a very scared mommy who's just 5 days away from her due date.
 
Her "supposedly VBAC friendly" doctor just did a 180 at her 39 week appointment and told her that he will not "let her" go a single day past her due date, and said in very clear terms that he would force her to have a c-section if she was not in labor by Tuesday.  We know that's not legal, but he can make things terrible for her.
 
I was in her exact position 8 months ago, so I know what she's going through. I stayed with my doctor and ended up going through 38 hours of torturous hospital labor where I literally had to fight him off of me to deliver my baby by a successful VBAC.  I wouldn't wish that hell on any mom.
 
She wants to find a provider willing to take her as a walk-in when she goes into labor (the only way insurance will pay for it), but she said she's been calling around and no one is willing to take her this close to her due date.  Anyone have any advice or references here?  Any providers here willing to talk with her?
 
Please let me know if you can provide any information that might help this scared, stressed mommy.
 
Thank you!!!
Gina




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