What we're about

THE BEGINNINGS:
April 8, 2020: formerly Chicago Singles Meetup Group, a public group without age range originally doing tech start ups then tried holding speed dating events before the original organizer stepped down.

6/23/2020: A NEW leadership & a start of many CHANGES such as being a private group, separation of ages, some trial and error, COVID-19 hassles, etc. This is an ever evolving group. If you believe:
- “You reap what you sow”
-you have a high RSVP quotient /you have a word of honor (NOT just using the group as an option until you late cancel or no show)
-in Self Improvement and prefer quality over quantity then this is the group for you!

10/23/2020
Continuing as a SINGLES* group but now for 21 and above (*has nothing to do if you are dating, in a relationship or neither but DEFINITELY NOT MARRIED). So single parent, divorced and widow/widower are also included. ALTHOUGH A SINGLES GROUP THIS IS NOT NECESSARILY A DATING GROUP. (However in the future there will be a separate designated dating group for those who are ready/want to date. New insert 5/9/2022)

This is a group where you can meet new FRIENDS or if you are new in town you will not feel alone. We also prefer the feeling of FAMILY (family are supposed to take care of one another). Once a member you are a member for life. You can leave for any reason and can come back too anytime but you still have to follow the requirements/house rules. Also, any married couple that started here (or any meetup group) as singles will still be welcome and always part of the family. In the future there will be designated events for couples only up to creating a new group by itself.

So what happens if you are always single in life or prefers that? That’s another reason for this group. That is why it’s called a singles group-some people are meant to be single forever. On the other hand if while a member love happens-that’s great! We have to keep the world go around and round right? BUT WAIT, aren’t we supposed to be our BEST SELVES FIRST in order to find “the one” (or be found) and also keep the relationship??? Not a bad idea, right? There is always room for improvement in our lives. There’s always a problem that can be solved. That’s another purpose of this group. Also, we will be mingling and learning so much about ourselves and others while having meaningful and fun activities. This is also a place where artistic talents and other passions can be expressed. You may not know that you actually have a hidden gem of a talent or passion!

MEMBERSHIP REQUIREMENTS (for fairness, safety, comfort & convenience):
- a permanent first name or nickname (changing your name or nickname without prior notice/compelling reason will result to removal)
- have a decent photo-with member’s actual/unencumbered face/
answers to profile questions
--willing to be photographed in group events OR IF NOT WILLING TO BE PHOTOGRAPHED -PLEASE MAKE LEADERSHIP KNOW ASAP
-& have a desire for self improvement
Just joining to be a member in this group is a practice into self improvement :)
This had been a private group (which can never go back to being public ever/ meetup policy) so your names, photos, profile answers etc. will never be open to the public. We also try our best to remove fakes, second accounts etc.

HOUSE COMMANDMENTS and OTHERS:
# 1 “THOU SHALT NOT DISRESPECT!”
# 2 “THOU SHALT NOT say or do anything that is NOT SUPPORTIVE of the group.”
In short—BE KIND TO EVERYONE and the group itself.

If ever you encounter any problem with any member please try to solve it among yourselves first if you can. No one including yourself is perfect so please give people the benefit of the doubt. KINDNESS always goes a long long way. If unable to solve an issue despite some effort or if it needs immediate attention then let leadership know ASAP. In order to understand/help you and for it not to happen to others we need to know. Yes, we listen to both sides.

# 3 “THOU SHALT NOT COMMENT IF YOU ARE NOT ATTENDING” (also an extension of # 2)
We understand life happens but changing your RSVP prior to ANY deadline or NOT less than 24 hours to “NOT COMING” QUIETLY is all you need to do/to be polite. We reserve the EVENT COMMENT for EVENT ATTENDEES/LEADERSHIP ONLY. (This is also to avoid pinging everyone unnecessarily.) This platform is supposed to be a meetup group so PRIORITY IS MEETING UP!

***PREFERRED MAIN COMMUNICATION: DIRECT MESSAGE

So ANY questions, suggestions, concerns, need to relay/discuss/clarify OUTSIDE OF EVENTS YOU ARE NOT ATTENDING please do not hesitate to DM (direct/personal/private message) OR talk in person. You can also use Zoom or Google Meet if desired. (We just ask that you limit messaging/expecting fast reply few hours prior to events for the priority is to get ready, our attendees and the event. Of course remember & apply the group house commandments. )
Same way leadership MUST be able to contact you by group messaging, DM, online or in person especially related to events you signed up for/attending. If there is no way to communicate then a membership will not be allowed. Part of learning is having a 2 way street always. Communication only ceases when a member decides to leave the group anytime (but is also free to come back but still have to follow house rules/requirements).

NOTE that we will not tolerate people who break house rules/requirements most commonly such as no photo, not being nice, being “creepy” (all genders), firedooring, multiple/or unreasonable late cancellation(s)/no show(s), etc.

MORE ABOUT MEMBER LC-LATE CANCELLATION or NS-NO SHOW

**LC: if there is no specific date on the RSVP (i.e. RSVP closing 5 days prior to event) then LC is cancelling or changing RSVP to not coming less than 24 hours prior to the event.

***NS: still signed up in the event but did not show up

*YOU CAN ERASE YOUR LC OR NS but FIRST:

A. IF YOU HAVE NOT ATTENDED your first event in this group and you LC or NS you will be removed. You may rejoin after a month or TBD/leadership.

B. IF YOU ALREADY ATTENDED an event in this group before you either LC or NS the SECOND time you LC or NS you will be removed. You may rejoin after a month or TBD/leadership.

TO AVOID REMOVAL FROM THE GROUP YOU CAN *ERASE YOUR LC OR NS by doing any below:

*A. VOLUNTEER (you will not be asked) to

- Make a cash donation to FMSC & send copy or photo of the donation OR

- Attend a volunteering event posted on this group OR

- Bring food for everyone during an event OR

*B. VOLUNTEER (you will not be asked) to suggest/create details of an event and or co host an event with the organizer

MISCELLANEOUS:
There are events that it’s truly fine to be LATE and we can still accommodate you but know that other events will require you to be on time or even early such as a play, FMSC volunteering, Escape Rooms, etc. You can also LEAVE EARLIER during some events as long as you inform the host before you leave. (This is to align with Meetup safety.)

HOST + GUESTS: guests are from our other private groups managed by same leadership.

We do have events that are a sure go which are not dependent on the number of attendees but WE ALSO RESERVE THE RIGHT TO CANCEL OR RESCHEDULE EVENTS due to low attendance, “acts of God”, etc.
Do not just rely on meetup emails re events. Before going to an event check our GROUP PAGE for ACCURATE event status especially for canceled or rescheduled events.

Here’s our URL link:
CHICAGOLAND SINGLES (PRIVATE) MEETUP GROUP
https://www.meetup.com/chicagolandsinglesmeetupgroup

This is my first group as a primary organizer/owner when I was not a previous member …during the height of COVID-19 and while many groups are getting inactive or closed —but against all odds— “ONE LESS LONELY PERSON IN THE WORLD” was enough for me to save this group from closing and persevere.

We now also call this private group:

S Single, Smart, Supportive 
A Active Artistic Altruistic Adventurous 
F Fun Funny Fair Friendly (Fully Vaccinated-mostly)
E Eclectic (Eccentric) & Enthusiastic about Self Improvement

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