Attachment styles

The psychologist John Bowlby said that humans have a number of different attachment styles. Some people were "insecure" or clingy, invading your personal space, buying you unwanted presents for holidays you didn't know existed, and keeping a close eye on your cell phone in case your ex hits you up for a booty call. In contrast, "dismissive" or "avoidant" individuals go through their lives doing more or less whatever they want, apparently unwilling to change or compromise their style in order to maintain a relationship. Some would say they act that way because they don't want to take a chance on a relationship. If they don't compromise in any way, never deviating from what they would have otherwise done, then they risk nothing, and certainly not their hearts.

In between are the "healthy" people, people who apparently go through life with ease, easily making friendships with people and being open-hearted, but also easily letting them go when it is time.

Which one are you? Or do you act differently depending on the context? My theory: It is all driven by game theory, and the above "styles" aren't anything personal, just strategies calculated to obtain the most favorable result. But the same way that military generals often lose because they fight the last war, not the current one, people often keep on using the same "attachment strategy" even though the situation no longer calls for it.