LIVE In Person Conscious Lesbian Retreat In Napa, CA, October 17-21

Get the full Conscious Lesbian/Queer retreat details right here on our website :)

This 3-day event invites you to:

• Connect with open-hearted, like-minded lesbians and queer women
• Experience a non-hookup, community-focused environment
• Explore workshops and conversations that support personal growth and authentic connection

For some, this retreat will be their first lesbian event ever, offering a safe, welcoming space to step into community. For others, it will rekindle the joyful spirit of 1980s–1990s lesbian gatherings, celebrating friendship, self-discovery, and belonging.

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Q: Who is the Conscious Girlfriend Academy retreat for?
This retreat is designed especially for single lesbians and queer women seeking community and friendship, though of course couples are welcome, too. Most of our attendees tend to be over 40.

• If you’re over 40, you’ll be right at home! Most attendees are in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond.
• Women just coming out or exploring their queer identity are embraced here
• Longtime lesbians looking to reconnect with lesbian culture and community will feel like ducks in water :)

It’s the perfect space if you’ve been longing for meaningful connection without the pressure of a bar or dating scene and if you are a growth-oriented lesbian who wants to hang out with and/or date people committed to conscious, healthy relationships.

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Q: Is this a dating, hookup or party event? What's the vibe?
Conscious Girlfriend Academy's focus is on conscious connection, growth, and friendship, so this retreat will be an extension of that. Most participants will have been attending Zoom classes and groups together for months, though if you're just hearing about us now, you can still come -- as long as you become a member.

That said, we will likely have a workshop on flirting and/or on lesbian sex, because we embrace all aspects of the queer experience, including our eros. And you might meet someone special organically, simply because this is a warm and authentic space where like-minded women gather.

It's definitely not a party. Some attendees may drink wine in the evening (after all, it's Napa), but many are sober or just choose not to drink. There will definitely be dancing and laughter, though :)

Get the full details and sign up here -- only a few spots are left!

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Q: What can I expect to experience at the retreat?
At our October 2025 Conscious Girlfriend Academy retreat, you can look forward to:

• Workshops for self-discovery and personal growth, including an opportunity to attend the Saturday session of our 12-week Lesbian Dating Essentials class live and in-person!
• Morning qi gong, tai chi, yoga, meditation or mindful walks
• Community-building circles and conversations, plus an opportunity for members to share some of their own skills and knowledge and mini-workshops to benefit us all
• Evening gatherings that foster joy and belonging, including campfires and maybe even s'mores (gluten-free for some of us)
• Fantastic meals drawing on the farmland bounty Napa Valley and California are known for
• Time to relax, reflect, and recharge in warm-hearted company, welcoming to introverts, extroverts and everyone in between

Many participants say the true magic is in the friendships and confidence they take home with them.

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Q: I’m just coming out. Will I fit in?
Absolutely! This retreat is crafted for inclusivity and comfort, offering a gentle landing for those:

• Newly coming out
• Exploring their lesbian or queer identity
• Seeking their first connection with lesbian community

You’ll be surrounded by growth-oriented, open-hearted women who will support, uplift, and welcome you exactly as you are.

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Q: What makes this lesbian retreat unique?
Unlike a larger event or party-focused weekends, the Conscious Girlfriend Academy retreat offers:

• A non-intimidating, community-first atmosphere
• Workshops and activities that prioritize self-acceptance, learning, and authentic connection
• Opportunities to bond with other single lesbians without the pressure of a hookup or dating-focused event
• An opportunity to meet in person with your past, present or future classmates in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, the world's only online school and community devoted to helping lesbians and adjacent queer people live our best lives, date wisely and love well. (We >wrote the book on Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, and you can start reading it free right here.)

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Q: Why Napa, California in October 2025?

• Napa Valley is gorgeous in autumn, with harvest-season beauty, golden vineyards, and crisp evenings.
• The serene setting supports relaxation and reflection, away from the rush of daily life.
• It’s easy to access from the Bay Area and regional airports, making it ideal for a weekend retreat to recharge and reconnect. Yet many of our participants will come from the East Coast, elsewhere in the U.S., and most likely elsewhere in the world, too. (Our members come from 25 countries!)

Q: Why do you have to be an Academy member in order to attend?

• Academy membership creates a culture based on being conscious, compassionate and curious, and this container transfers over to our retreats, making them both richer and more relaxed. Learn about membership here.
• When you're at a Conscious Girlfriend event, you can expect genuine warmth, not a frenzied focus on "meeting someone." You will definitely "meet someone" -- lots of someones! That said, most of our retreats yield friendships which sometimes, in the fullness of time, turn into romantic relationships. So, it could happen :)
• Most Academy members find that the Academy dramatically uplevels their capacity for higher-quality, authentic friendship and relationships. So it's a special perk to be able to spend F2F time with those women you've previously seen in the Zoom squares, and see what blossoms. This retreat comes midway through our groundbreaking online 12-week Lesbian Dating Essentials class, which may well rock your world -- whether you've been struggling to date, have been single for years or decades, or have never really dated as a lesbian at all.

Get the full retreat details and sign up here -- only a few spots left!