Chemistry Isn't A Character Trait: Attraction vs. Alignment

Attraction vs. Alignment: Dating After 40 Without Repeating the Pattern
Ever felt an instant spark with someone… and later realized, “Wait—this is the same story again”?
In this Dating Redefined meetup, we’re separating two things that get tangled all the time:
Attraction (spark, chemistry, intensity, banter)
vs.
Alignment (values, consistency, emotional maturity, relationship readiness)
Chemistry is real—but it’s not proof of compatibility.
You’ll leave with one simple tool you can use on real dates: a Spark vs. Substance Scorecard that helps you evaluate a man based on evidence, not hope—so you can keep the spark and stop settling for confusion, mixed signals, or “almost.”
What we’ll do:

• A short teaching on why spark can feel powerful (even when it’s not aligned)
• One strong guided exercise to identify your “spark triggers” and measure real alignment
• A clear takeaway you can use after any date or early connection

Supportive, practical, and designed to create those “OH… that’s why” moments.
Bring a pen and a piece of paper and let's do this. Share as much or as little as you want.