⏳Let Them, Let Me: Breaking Codependence and Building Better Boundaries — Week 2
Details
What happens when we stop asking, “How do I get them to change?” and begin asking, “What will I choose?”
Inspired by Mel Robbins’ book The Let Them Theory, this three-week Relationship Support series explores how releasing our attempts to control other people can help us break codependent patterns, establish healthier boundaries, and reclaim our own choices.
“Let Them” allows other people to have their opinions, feelings, reactions, and decisions. “Let Me” returns our attention to what belongs to us: our responses, values, needs, limits, and actions.
This is not about becoming indifferent or walking away from every uncomfortable relationship. It is about caring without taking over, supporting without rescuing, and allowing other adults to be responsible for their own choices and consequences.
Join us even if you missed Week 1!
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Three-Week Series
Wednesday, July 22 — WEEK 1
Let Them—Releasing What You Cannot Control
Wednesday, July 29 — WEEK 2
Let Me—Reclaiming Your Choices, Energy, and Life
Wednesday, August 5 — WEEK 3
Let Go—Setting Boundaries and Responding to Reality
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This Week's Focus - WEEK 2
Let Me—Reclaiming Your Choices, Energy, and Life
We shift the focus from “How do I get them to change?” to “What will I choose?” We explore personal responsibility, self-trust, and the difference between supporting someone and taking responsibility for their life.
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You do not need to have read The Let Them Theory or attended the previous sessions to participate. We’ll briefly review the central framework before moving into the evening’s topic.
This is not a traditional book club. We’re using the ideas as a starting point for exploring codependence, control, boundaries, personal responsibility, and healthier relationships.
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How We Learn Together
Each session is designed to help you understand the concepts, connect them to your own experiences, and leave with practical ideas you can apply in your relationships.
- Easy-to-understand teaching with relatable, real-life examples
- Video clips that bring key concepts to life
- Reflection exercises to connect the material to your own experiences
- Group discussion and practical ideas to strengthen your relationships
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Our Typical Agenda
• Brief Welcome & Introductions
• Teaching, Video(s), or Guest Speaker (30-45 minutes)
• Interactive Group Discussion
• Bio Break
• Confidential Sharing* (approximately 45 minutes)
*We ask attendees to have their cameras on during confidential sharing to help create a safe and connected space.
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🔹 About the Group
This is a relationship support meeting that combines learning and sharing in a warm, supportive environment. You’re always welcome to connect, reflect, and grow—at your own pace.
✨ Come as you are and share only what feels comfortable. We do not record our meetings. You are welcome whether you are navigating divorce, separation, dating, family relationships, friendships, or simply trying to create healthier patterns in your life. ❤️
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💌 A Little Support Goes a Long Way
If you’re finding value in these gatherings, we invite you to consider a $20 monthly contribution to help support:
- Our paid Zoom account
- Our Meetup Subscription
- Weekly preparation, curation, and handouts
- Ongoing care of this growing community
Venmo: @Amy-Papazian (last 4 digits: 8444)
10% of each donation supports New Beginnings — our volunteer-led community creating friendship, fun, and fresh experiences.
🤗 Thank you in advance – whether you give now, later, or simply keep showing up, you help make this group special. 💕
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🌱 Continue the Conversation
Everyone processes differently. Some people find a group discussion most helpful, while others prefer the privacy of a one-on-one conversation.
If you'd like to talk about your own relationships or life transition in a confidential setting, I invite you to schedule a
complimentary 45-minute Strategy Session—or simply call or text me at 650.504.8444.
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