Social + Discussion: Can we be truly present with one, when partnered with many?

Mon 19th Jan 2026: 7.30–8.45pm
Polyamory & ENM: Social + Discussion –
“Can we be truly present with one when partnered with many?”
(Free)

When we practise polyamory, presence can become a surprisingly complex thing.

• How do we stay meaningfully connected to multiple partners while also offering our full attention to the one we’re with?
• Is it okay to message others or use dating apps during focused time with a partner, or does that dilute intimacy?
• Is it inconsiderate to message others or rude not to reply when they reach out to us?
• What does 'good mobile etiquette' even look like in a poly context, where care and connection extend beyond the room we’re in?

In this social + discussion, we’ll explore the subtle tensions between availability, responsiveness and presence. We’ll reflect on personal boundaries, expectations, and unspoken assumptions — and also consider the risks of never being fully present with anyone at all.

Expect an open, curious conversation where there’s no single right answer, just shared experience, insight, and learning.

Open to both total newbies and seasoned poly wanderers. Bring your curiosity, your questions, and your own lived wisdom – all perspectives are welcome.

We will take the question as a starting point for a deeper conversation and spend time in breakout rooms to allow people to connect and chat with more people and hear more perspectives.

Cost: Free