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A free 60-minute workshop for couples on what's actually underneath chronic resentment, defensiveness, and the unequal emotional labor that wears long-term relationships down.

Most couples don't have a resentment problem. They have an attachment-wound problem. Resentment is what builds when those wounds get triggered enough times, when requests don't get heard, when the emotional labor stays unequal, and when one or both partners default to defensiveness because vulnerability stopped feeling safe.
This 90-minute workshop walks through how resentment actually forms in long-term couples, what's underneath the chronic defensiveness, why the "you caused this, you fix it" stance keeps both partners stuck, and what it takes to move from blame to vulnerability without anyone having to perform forgiveness they don't feel.
The aim isn't to forget what happened, or to talk yourself out of being hurt. It's to learn how to shelve resentment without letting it run the relationship, hold the wound without suppressing it, and stop letting one triggered moment rewrite the whole history of your partnership.
What we'll cover:

  • Unequal emotional labor and how it quietly builds resentment
  • Attachment wounds and what triggers them in long-term partnership
  • Chronic defensiveness, and why vulnerability stops feeling safe
  • Moving from blame to vulnerability: owning your own role in the cycle
  • The "you caused this, you fix it" stance, and why it keeps couples stuck
  • Shelving resentment without forgetting, suppressing, or letting it thrive
  • Triggers don't rewrite history: one moment vs. the long story of the relationship

This is a good fit if:

  • You're stuck in a cycle of blame, defensiveness, and unequal emotional labor
  • You can name the resentment but don't know what to do with it
  • You're ready to move from "you fix it" to a shared way through

Facilitator:
Michelle Cortez, AMFT #146795 (supervised by Christina Mathieson, LMFT #115093), at My Mental Climb Marriage & Family Therapy. Michelle works with couples using EFT-informed and attachment-based approaches, and she's direct, structured, and big on practical takeaways.
Format: Online via Zoom. Cameras optional, you can attend solo or with your partner.
Cost: Free.
This is education, not therapy. No personal disclosure expected, no recording.

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