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Most couples don't have a resentment problem; they have an attachment-wound problem. Resentment is what builds when those wounds get triggered enough times, when requests don't get heard, when the emotional labor stays unequal, and when one or both partners default to defensiveness because vulnerability stopped feeling safe.

In this 60-minute workshop, Michelle walks through how resentment actually forms in long-term couples, why the "you caused this, you fix it" stance keeps both partners stuck, and what it takes to move from blame to vulnerability without anyone having to perform forgiveness they don't feel. The aim isn't to forget what happened, or to talk yourself out of being hurt. It's to learn how to shelve resentment without letting it run the relationship, to hold the wound without letting one triggered moment rewrite the whole history of your partnership.

### WHAT WE'LL COVER

  • Unequal emotional labor and how it quietly builds resentment
  • Attachment wounds and what triggers them in long-term partnership
  • Chronic defensiveness, and why vulnerability stops feeling safe
  • Moving from blame to vulnerability: owning your own role in the cycle
  • The "you caused this, you fix it" stance, and why it keeps couples stuck
  • Shelving resentment without forgetting, suppressing, or letting it thrive
  • Triggers don't rewrite history: one moment vs. the long story of the relationship

### GOOD FIT FOR

  • Couples stuck in a cycle of blame, defensiveness, and unequal emotional labor
  • Partners who can name the resentment but don't know what to do with it
  • Couples ready to move from "you fix it" to a shared way through

Led by Michelle Cortez, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) #146795 · Supervised by Christina Mathieson, LMFT #115093 at My Mental Climb.

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