Grief & Growth After Attachment Trauma

This is a peer-led support group for people who are grieving the end of intense, emotionally dysregulated relationships - and who want to grow, not stay stuck.

Many of us come out of these relationships feeling annihilated:
disoriented, hollow, longing, still loving, and yet knowing we cannot go back.
The loss is not only of a partner, but of identity, future, safety, and self-coherence.

This group is not about diagnosing ex-partners, assigning blame, or strategising contact.

It is about rebuilding the self after attachment trauma.

We focus on:

• Grief after high-intensity, insecure or disorganised attachment relationships
• Annihilation fear, longing, and the collapse of identity
• Learning to hold coexisting truths (love and boundaries, compassion and separation)
• Moving from survival to development without denial or bitterness
• Reclaiming agency, dignity, and emotional integration

This group may be relevant if you:

• Loved deeply but had to leave (or were left)
• Feel grief that doesn’t fit conventional breakup narratives
• Struggle with hope, finality, or letting go without erasing love
• Are committed to growth, not scapegoating
• Want honest, grounded conversation with others who truly understand

Group Principles

• We speak from personal experience, not diagnosis
• We avoid demonisation, rescue fantasies, or revenge narratives
• We respect boundaries and confidentiality
• Venting is allowed; endless rumination is gently redirected toward growth
• This is a developmental space, not therapy or crisis support

You do not need to be “over it”.

You do need to be willing to sit with complexity.

This is a place for people who are learning how to grieve without disappearing,
and how to grow without becoming hardened.