The Illusion of Love: Myths, Media, and Attachment

Love is one of the most powerful forces in our lives, but is what we believe about love always real—or is it often an illusion shaped by culture, religion, and media? Throughout history, love has been idealized: from the sacred union of marriage promoted by religion, to the passionate ideals of French Romanticism, to the modern fantasies of movies, books, music, and even Disney fairytales. These narratives create the idea of a “perfect partner” or “soulmate,” but reality is far more complex.

Love is not just romance—it is deeply tied to our psychology and the way we form attachments. Our attachment styles influence how we connect with others:

• Secure attachment: comfort with closeness and trust.
• Anxious attachment: fear of abandonment, craving reassurance.
• Avoidant attachment: discomfort with intimacy, preference for independence.
• Disorganized attachment: a mix of both, often shaped by trauma.

In this event, we will reflect on how illusions of love influence our expectations and relationships, and explore how attachment styles shape the way we love, connect, and even suffer.

This is a space for open, philosophical, and psychological discussion—bringing together cultural, spiritual, and personal perspectives on the true nature of love.

Questions we'll discuss: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bqsQYwpi728TVdjndEFLHnYDFufSkTLQHcxBLYbJ6ZE/edit?usp=sharing

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