What we’re about
I used to have this really long description where I ranted about adult friendships and the hardships of finding nice, normal people to hang out with.... but y'all already know that!
It's hard to make friends as an adult. I run an entire podcast and social club about it. People don't respond, people cancel plans, people flirt & get weird, the list could go on for MILES.
I'm assuming you're here for the same reason I am - to attend some fun events, attempt to make some friends, and find a ~purpose~ in this life. So let's get on with it. I host events at least a few times a month and I promise they're the best ones you'll find on Meetup (The bar is low).
By joining our group, you agree to the rules & terms. I know y'all don't read so to sum it all up: We're inclusive people. Have fun & let loose & drink but do so safely. Don't judge. Events are 21+. Don't flirt or cross lines - this isn't Tinder!!!!!! Be freaking normal or I'll remove your A$$. Read the event descriptions - most of your questions get asked in them like "What's the parking situation?". Have fun & TRY to make some friends!
Let's stay connected! Follow me on Instagram/TikTok @meetwithmacey. Want more out of your social life? Check our our website and podcast "Hard To Make Friends As An Adult" for tips on friendship - available on Spotify & major streaming platforms.
Upcoming events (2)
See all- La Dolce Vita - Ladies Italian Dinner Social!Fig Italian Kitchen & Bar, Austin, TX
The Italian aesthetic taking over summer 2025 had a hold on me because I am absolutely a pasta obsessed wine-o girlie 🍝 and I will never turn down a night out revolving around either of those! Join me as we say "Arrivederci, Summer!" over dinner at Fig Italian!
View their menu for pricing, specials, and dietary restrictions here.
I love a good drop-in event and I have told myself in the past I would never host a sit-down dinner Meetup ever again but c'est la vie... the chaos is worth it for the company & pasta! PLEASE ONLY RSVP if you plan to attend and arrive on time at 7pm so we can be seated as a group at a table that accommodates! Thanks for understanding!
How To Find Us When You Arrive: I will post in this event comment section how to find us and where we are seated upon arriving. You can also check our Instagram stories @meetwithmacey or @hardtomakefriendsasanadult for updates/meeting up with us.
Parking: Parking garages and street parking available in the area!
Get Hyped With Our Themed Playlist:
Listen to our pregame playlist here on Spotify to get hyped!Social Anxiety?!
We get it. It's weird to meet strangers off the internet - & our parents definitely told us not to! We recommend grabbing a drink (alcoholic or non!) to have something to hold/sip for the inevitable awkward silences. Planning ahead, dressing in something that makes you feel confident, & thinking of some of your interests/potential conversations before arriving are some tips to ensure you have a fun night. Not to self-promote but our podcast is also pretty helpful to learn some friending basics!Let's stay connected!
Join our Facebook group for more events & connecting! Follow your host Macey on Instagram/TikTok @meetwithmacey and check out our website + podcast "Hard To Make Friends As An Adult" on Spotify & all major streaming platforms!-------
Disclaimer & fine print:
Please use discretion when meeting/talking with ANY attendee of our group. We do not recommend sharing personal information, contact info, rideshares, etc with any member you do not know personally. Do not come if you are sick or worried about catching/spreading anything. Event may be canceled/rescheduled at any time, for any reason. All members and attendees agree to our Rules & Terms.*Please note, we are NOT associated with Fig Italian - we are simply "Meeting Up" as a friend group & social club to enjoy drinks/dinner & socializing! All attendees must follow all rules of the venue and are encouraged to purchase at least one food/drink item to support the venue!
Our social club "Hard To Make Friends As An Adult" is trademarked & copyrighted. Violating our rules or copying/using our logos/events/pictures/etc will be taken seriously.
For any questions, concerns, requests, event ideas, or collaboration inquiries, please email us at hardtomakefriends@gmail.com
- Social September Challenge - 30 Days, 30 Ways to be More Social!Link visible for attendees
30 days, 30 ways to be more social - how many can you check off?!
Meetup, Facebook groups, and all these random apps + event concepts popping up now that everyone wants to profit on the loneliness epidemic are tools to build a social life and make friends. TOOLS y'all! They are NOT our actual social lives.It's easy to convince ourselves that we have friends and a social life thanks to these platforms - and, to some extent, maybe we do! Having and facilitating community is necessary to a fulfilling life. However, I have always felt social websites/ apps/ communities give the illusion of friendship while lacking the soul of it.
I've been hosting events with our social club for years. It brings me a sense of purpose and enjoyment. I love seeing y'all connect. I've learned so many lessons about people and friendship. I've made friends, I've made enemies. I've heard amazing stories, shared in some fun times with so many cool people. As we begin to wrap up 2025 in the next few months, I've been spending a lot of time reflecting on friendship.
A few months ago I had a falling out with some "friends." One of them implied that it's not hard to make friends as an adult and maybe I'm the problem. I gave them that in the moment. But they're wrong. It IS hard to make friends as an adult.It's easy to meet people, it's easy to "settle" on whatever community we can find. We can always find something to do on a Saturday night. We can unseriously enjoy the company of many.
But friends? GOOD friends? Hard to find, harder to maintain. I'm talking a friend who gets us. Someone we don't want to cancel plans on just to stay in. Someone we can trust. A friend who matches the effort we put in. Someone where weekly texting doesn't just fizzle out. A friend who knows/accepts all of our sides. Someone who checks off many of our friendship boxes despite being just one person. The inside jokes, the "Remember that time?" moments. That is truly hard to find. & usually once you find it, they end up moving for their job in 6 months. Gotta enjoy these friends while we can.
So that's why I came up with this Social September Challenge. It's mostly for myself but I encourage anyone to join in. We don't want to settle on friends. What's the point in a room full of "community" if you never talk outside of it? We have so many options to meet people nowadays yet we seem to be lonelier than ever.
Social clubs, Meetup Groups, and attending events don't always equate to lasting friendships. But small, intentional steps do add up.The challenge: 30 days of putting your social life on the front burner.
- Some prompts are super chill (like mailing a postcard or texting someone you miss)
- Others will nudge you out of your comfort zone (Hosting an event, try a new activity)
This isn’t supposed to feel like a chore! It’s a way to make September a little less “scroll and binge” and a little more “connection." So if you’ve been wanting to shake up your routine, meet new people, or simply reconnect with yourself, join me. Let’s make September the month we stop saying “I should…” and actually just do it. Fingers crossed we make some potential new friends or at least can say we tried to put ourselves out there.
Want an accountability partner?! Email [hardtomakefriends@gmail.com](mailto:hardtomakefriends@gmail.com) and we will message you every Sunday to check-in, offer encouragement, see how you're doing. You're also welcome to join our local group WhatsApp chats to make new connections. We will also be hosting a 30 minute Social September Recap Google Meet every Sunday
Use #hardtomakefriends #socialseptemberchallenge #frienderseptember to share your progress!
30 Days of Reclaiming Your Social Life:
Pick one item per day to cross off this list! Feel free to make adjustments to fit your own interests, schedule, etc
⬜️Catch up with a friend/relative
⬜️Introduce yourself to someone
⬜️Attend a virtual event
⬜️Mail a postcard/letter
⬜️Send a "Thinking of You" text
⬜️Host an event (Big or small!)
⬜️Spend time volunteering
⬜️Go to a music event
⬜️Support a small business
⬜️Spend time with a furry friend
⬜️Read one book on connections/friendships/socializing
⬜️Go somewhere solo
⬜️Meet or talk to a neighbor
⬜️Try an entirely new activity
⬜️Get out of your comfort zone once
⬜️Write down your social needs/goals
⬜️Have a self-care day
⬜️Compliment a stranger
⬜️Schedule a social event for October
⬜️Partake in one sporting/active/fitness event
⬜️Attend a local community event (School play, sporting game, book club, etc)
⬜️Leave a 5 star review for a local business
⬜️Do something that will result in major laughter
⬜️Read a few entries by Humans of New York
⬜️Visit a place that makes you feel like you
⬜️See a movie
⬜️Tip extra once
⬜️Do a good deed
⬜️Complete a to-do list item (Reducing anxiety, in general, can help other areas of our lives)
⬜️Text an old friendThis event is a self-led virtual + in-person challenge for the month of September 2025! Cross off one item per day to participate! Read the full blog post here for more information.
Let's stay connected!
Join our Facebook group for more events & connecting! Follow your host Macey on Instagram/TikTok @meetwithmacey and check out our website + podcast "Hard To Make Friends As An Adult" on Spotify & all major streaming platforms!
