Heart & Mind Women Conversations

THE “LET THEM” THEORY — When We Stop Chasing and Start Choosing Peace

A Heart & Mind Women Conversation

There comes a point in life when we realise:
we cannot control other people’s choices,
their effort,
their opinions,
their reactions,
or their growth.
We can love people, hope for them, cheer for them —
but we cannot make them behave a certain way.
Mel Robbins calls this The “Let Them” Theory:
If someone doesn’t make the effort…
let them.
If someone speaks poorly of you…
let them.
If someone doesn’t choose you…
let them.
If someone takes you for granted…
let them.
If someone pulls away…
let them.
Not because you don’t care.
Not because you’re passive.
Not because you’re weak.
But because your peace matters more than your pursuit of approval.
In this conversation, we’ll explore:
💗 What happens inside us when we stop trying to control the uncontrollable
💗 The difference between boundaries and walls
💗 How to let people be who they are — without losing ourselves
💗 How to reclaim energy and self-respect without coldness or revenge
💗 What “Let Them” looks like in real, imperfect human life
This is not a workshop about “not caring.”
This is a gathering about caring without abandoning yourself.
Come whether you’re currently holding on too tight…
or learning to soften your grip…
or somewhere in between.
You don’t have to be ready.
You don’t have to be healed.
You don’t have to have it all figured out.
You just have to be human to belong here.i

I’m so excited to connect with you all over books and beautiful conversation.
Just a quick heads-up for future events —

To make sure everyone’s time and energy are honoured, events will go ahead when there are RSVP’s by the night before. This helps create an atmosphere where we all know we’ll have company, connection, and conversation.

If you’re ever unsure or running late, just message — I always want to make sure no one misses out.

Can’t wait to share our discussion soon — I’m looking forward to creating a warm and welcoming space for us all.

Our third conversation - Radical Acceptance announced early so you have more of a chance to purchase or borrow book from library if you wish -

Inviting women to lay down the armour, soften toward themselves, and live as if they are already enough.

What this conversation is about
• inner permission
• hearing our quiet wisdom
• holding our real selves with compassion
• living true instead of perfect

Heart & Mind Women is a space for real connection — not perfection.

A place to exhale, soften, and be human — not polished.

Every month we explore a theme around courage, self-worth, intuition, boundaries and belonging.

Sometimes a book sparks the conversation, but the purpose is the conversation — not the book.

This month we’re exploring radical acceptance — not as a review, but as a doorway into something many women know deeply:
The moment we realise we have lived for expectation for so long that we almost forgot who we really are.

Together, we’ll gently explore:
Where we learned to be “good” instead of kind to ourselves
What it feels like to stop abandoning ourselves to earn belonging
How to honour intuition without guilt
What “belonging to ourselves” looks like in real life

This isn’t a workshop about fixing or “self-improvement.”

It’s a conversation about coming home to ourselves — slowly, kindly, with integrity.

Radical Acceptance teaches us that real change begins only when we stop rejecting ourselves.

You do not need to read the book to belong here.

You do not need to arrive confident or “together.”

Listening counts as participating. Sharing is welcome but never required.

This circle is for women who want:
• depth without heaviness
• inspiration without pressure
• authenticity without comparison
• connection without losing themselves
Come as you are — tired, hopeful, curious, uncertain, rediscovering, healing, becoming.

You do not need to feel “ready” to come.
You only need to be human.

There is always something here for your heart.

📍 Peregian Beach Hotel
(venue chosen for air-conditioning during the summer months)

Just RSVP so we know how many places to ask the venue to hold for us — and to respect one another’s time and energy.

If your soul whispered yes, even quietly — you belong here.
We’d love to sit with you.