A weekly Zoom meeting for authentic connection!

### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message

Topic: Healthy Relationships

**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******

Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456

### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns

Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse

Pre-Meeting Homework Video: https://youtu.be/OYoIVCHVwKI?si=3DyYSxG6KwCLCAAs

***

#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency

Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:

• How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
• Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
  Modalities:
• Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
• Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
• Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
  Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.

***

#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action

Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:

• How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
• Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
  Modalities:
• Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
• IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
• Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
  Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.

***

#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment

Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:

• The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
• How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
  Modalities:
• Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
• Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
• Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
  Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.

***

#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.

#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence

Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:

• Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
• Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
  Modalities:
• Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
• Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
• Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
  Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
  Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
  — Pat Vulk

When attending this event, you acknowledge and agree:

1. This is a peer-led, non-clinical support group. The organizers are acting solely as private citizens, not in any professional capacity. No therapy, diagnosis, or treatment is provided.
2. All advice is general information only, not individualized professional care. You assume full responsibility for how you use it.
3. You waive any right to sue the organizer, co-organizers, or venue for any claim—emotional, financial, or otherwise—arising from participation, even if advice is misinterpreted or causes distress.
4. You release all liability and agree this waiver is enforceable to the fullest extent allowed by law.