Mens' development group

I can give you positive and negative arguments for joining:

• Negative - starting with this because our mind loves negativity and most of us use it as fuel for action. I will do my best to help you:
  > fear less of reality because you will start getting in touch with it
  > make thoughts a temporary guest in your head instead of truth
  > feel an embodied context to relate to instead of your thoughts (suggested concept: 3 principles by Sydney Banks; recommended reads: Just a Thought: A No-Willpower Approach to Overcome Self-Doubt and Make Peace with Your Mind)
• Positive - because we f***ing need it for life. Without it we have no light on the horizon to guide us through challenges of being:
  > You will “Engage with the pain as a motive” [“Achilles Come Down” by Gang of Youths: https://tinyurl.com/yy5v4fhc] because physical activity allows us to calibrate our anxious mind
  > You will attempt giving and receiving safety, seeing and being seen, feeling and being felt
  > Hear yourself from a place of connection to your body and emotions (instead of the stories and judgements … sorry for negativity but it felt relevant)

If we don’t F’up you will make a step in the direction of becoming the hero of your own story and trust yourself (just a little bit) more that you are able to face adversity and go on an adventure in this life.

Basic physics teaches us that the most efficient way to establish the right trajectory for movement is to have both poles: the negative and positive acting on the body. You find it in electric current (as voltage which is a measure of difference of electric potential) and magnetism (north and south pole). The same is with orienting yourself in life. You need to have both security (negative pole where we run away from bad things happening to us) and adventure (positive pole of self realisation).

The container for this is quite long as it is 4h divided into blocks of:

• Playfight - recommended watch: Playfight is Connection [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kzjLwWLRTBY]
• Tantric intimacy building - don’t care about what you imagine Tantra is about. We will use some specific tools to help you be present, face yourself and connect to another person authentically.
• Men’s circle - we will be talking about where you want to get and what is stopping you. Whether it means do well in business, find a partner, be a better father maybe all of the above and more.

I am happy to consider eating together after the meetup since it is the 1st one and we can do a grill nearby (if few people come) or grab a pizza in a pizzeria next door

We will gather at: Lago do Jardim Municipal de Oeiras [https://maps.app.goo.gl/nWuJ8VeRcuKVwNcS8] between 10:50 and 11:00 - it is very close to Santo Amaro train station.

Bring:

• comfortable close (easy movement and can get dirty)
• Water

Entry fee is 10Euro paid cash onsite

About the facilitator:
Borys Sobiegraj - spent 10+ years doing Advanced Analytics and Machine Learning projects for companies of different shapes and sizes (https://www.linkedin.com/in/borys-sobiegraj), passionate about: psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, religion, action. Overthinker in remission who through personal struggles got to a place where life is fun. I am testing myself as a coach with optimistic initial results :D I created the event because it didn’t exist and I believe it should. Also I trust that what I was shown and learned can make a difference also in other people’s lives - let’s see together if I am right :)