London Attachment Relationships and Nervous System Coaching

If you’re tired of feeling like…

• Your needs don’t matter
• You’re focused on meeting everyone else’s needs
• Expressing your needs is too vulnerable
• Expressing your needs will be met with disconnection, rejection and abandonment

…Your insecure attachment style may be holding you back from the relationship you want.

Relationship needs are a big deal – the success and satisfaction of our intimate relationships hinges on them.

Yet many of us with insecure attachment patterns struggle to identify our own needs, let alone advocate for them in a healthy, grounded way.

Subconsciously we may believe that:

• Our needs don’t matter
• We earn love through meeting others’ needs
• We’re responsible for meeting all of our own needs
• People can’t be trusted to meet our needs
• People will think our needs are too much

For 10 Lovely Humans Only

Calling on 10 lovely humans to join me online Wednesday May 21ST, 2025, at 7:30PM BST for a two-hour workshop on Understanding Your Relationship Needs for Secure, Contented Love.

In this two-hour workshop we’ll create a template for the success and satisfaction of our intimate relationships through:

• Understanding what we need to feel loved, content and secure
• Understanding our partner’s needs and why they’re important to them
• Being invested in meeting our partner’s needs, and vice versa
• Clearly communicating our limits and boundaries when it comes to meeting other’s needs

Participants will receive:

• An Understanding Your Relationship Needs workbook
• Suggested scripts for communicating needs and navigating conflict
• Simple recorded practices for self-soothing

Investment: Early-bird GBP17, available until April 19th. Full price GBP23.

About Natalie

If you’re looking for real love, but instead find yourself infatuated and even obsessed with someone who won’t be with you, you may be in the grips of limerence.

Limerence – first coined by psychologist Dorothy Tenov in the '70s – sees the limerent person unable to control their romantic fixation on the limerent object (LO), even if the other person doesn’t reciprocate.

If you:

• Experience frequent intrusive thoughts about the LO
• Have an overwhelming fear of rejection
• Idealise the LO – often without knowing them intimately (or at all!)
• Experience a rollercoaster of moods and emotions depending on whether the LO shows interest
• Feel excessively shy and awkward around the LO
• Fixate on improving yourself to win the LO’s love…

Your attachment wounds may be keeping you invested in fantasy relationships.

Does limerence – aka person obsession - keep showing up in your relationships?

Are you often emotionally dysregulated?

Are you at the mercy of your triggers?

It could be that your core wounds - long-held limiting beliefs we layer over our experiences as adults - are causing you to settle for fantasy relationships with a limerent object (LO), rather than seek out the reciprocal relationships you deserve.

Subconscious beliefs like:

‘If only they loved me, I’d finally feel worthy and good enough.’

‘Staying in this fantasy relationship protects me from rejection.’

‘This person is my soulmate/twin flame so they’ll never abandon me.’

‘Being in limerence means I’ll never be trapped by the wrong person.’

The many benefits of healing core wounds include:

· Boosting self-esteem
· Becoming less triggered in relationships
· Approaching relationships from a place of genuine connection, not protection

For 10 Lovely Humans Only
Calling on 10 lovely humans to join me online Wednesday June 4th, 2025, at 7:30PM BST for a two-hour workshop on Rewriting the Core Wounds That Trigger Limerence.

In this two-hour workshop we’ll:

· Explore how core wounds form due to our early attachment experiences
· Identify the key core wound/s driving your limerence
· Create individual Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping scripts to rewrite your chosen core wound

Participants will receive:

· A Limerence and Core Wounds Workbook
· Suggested Core Wound EFT scripts
· A general Core Wound EFT tapping video recording

Investment: Earlybird GBP17, available until May 15th. Full price GBP23.

Understanding Limerence
Limerence – first coined by psychologist Dorothy Tenov in the '70s – sees the limerent person unable to control their romantic fixation on the LO, even if the other person doesn’t reciprocate.

If you:

• Experience frequent intrusive thoughts about the LO
• Have an overwhelming fear of rejection
• Idealise the LO – often without knowing them intimately (or at all!)
• Experience a rollercoaster of moods and emotions depending on whether the LO shows interest
• Feel excessively shy and awkward around the LO
• Fixate on improving yourself to win the LO’s love…

Your attachment wounds may be keeping you invested in fantasy relationships.

Understanding Core Wounds
Core wounds are beliefs we acquire through conditioning. Ages 0-8 are our peak conditioning years due to our highly impressionable brainwave states.

Those with insecure attachment styles tend to have more core wounds, where the securely attached’s core wounds are typically less intense, less frequently activated and situation specific.

The language of our core wounds is simple – ‘I am bad’, ‘I am alone’, ‘I am unsafe’, ‘I am unworthy’. This is because they were often formed before conscious, analytical thinking.

In adulthood, core wounds can present as an inability to regulate our emotions, including:

· Reactivity
· Emotional manipulation
· Controlling behaviour

About Emotional Freedom Technique
EFT, commonly known as tapping, is a powerful practice that combines aspects of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) with ancient Chinese acupressure.

During a tapping session you focus on the cause of stress, anxiety, or even physical pain while at the same time tapping EFT points that correspond with traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) meridians.

For over 2000 years meridians have been seen as energy pathways through which the body’s chi or life force flows. Today, researchers believe meridians are also linked to the nervous system and even brain activity.

Studies have found EFT beneficial for anxiety, depression and PTSD. Physiologically it's been found to lower cortisol and reduce blood flow to the amygdala. EFT is non-evasive, with no contraindications.