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New Coaching Offering: The Relationship Trigger Breakthrough
Do you struggle in relationships?
Do you become a version of yourself that you don’t recognise?
Do you abandon your own needs to avoid conflict and maintain connection?
ATTACHMENT & NERVOUS SYSTEM COACHING WITH NAT
Understanding how your attachment style and nervous system influences the way you seek connection can help to create safety and security in your relationships.
When you address your insecure attachment patterns, including nervous system dysregulation, to become more secure you’ll:
– learn to approach relationships from a place of connection, not protection
– learn to recognise and express your own emotions and needs
– become less triggered
– learn to show up more authentically in relationships
In this online Meetup group we'll:
– chat about attachment styles
– learn about how our nervous system dysregulation can sabotage our relationships
– share practical tools to move towards healthy co-regulation and self-regulation
– learn about core wounds, expressing needs, emotional patterns, boundaries and more!
Can't wait for our next event? Schedule your free 30-minute strategy call today (includes 1 personalised strategy to move you towards secure attachment) if you:
– feel unsafe in relationships
– struggle with boundaries
– have little/no awareness of your relationship needs
– struggle with conflict
– have relationship anxiety
Visit: https://thisbeinghuman.live
About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE QLD.
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Polyvagal-Informed Co-Regulation Practices to Heal Attachment TraumaLink visible for attendees
Do you find intimate relationships deeply triggering?
Do you often feel isolated?
Do you struggle to trust, approaching relationships from a place of protection rather than connection?
It could be that early attachment trauma means you’re uncomfortable with co-regulation.
If, as a child, you didn’t receive support to co-regulate, or your emotional development was hindered due to attachment trauma, you may struggle with both self-regulation & co-regulation well into adulthood – after all, it’s hard to practice what wasn’t consistently modelled to us.
The many benefits of learning co-regulation in adulthood include:
· Identifying & expressing emotions & needs in a healthy, grounded way
· Showing up more authentically in relationships
· Recognising the co-regulation practices that fill your cup, as well as the specific practices that meet your loved ones’ needsFor 20 Lovely Humans Only
Calling on 20 lovely humans to join me online Monday June 15th, 2025, at 7:30PM BST for a two-hour workshop on Polyvagal-Informed Co-Regulation Practices to Heal Attachment Trauma.In this two-hour workshop we’ll:
· Explore the impact of attachment trauma on our nervous system
· Identify how a dysregulated nervous system can block safe, secure connections
· Learn to recognize healthy co-regulating partners & spaces
· Explore simple polyvagal-informed co-regulation practices to help us attune to others’ emotional states & vice versa.Participants will receive:
· A Polyvagal-Informed Co-Regulation Practices workbook
· A recorded Yoga Nidra (Yogic Sleep) meditation for self-regulation & grounding
· A video recording of simple polyvagal-informed exercises for nervous system regulationUnderstanding Co-Regulation
According to attachment theory, secure attachment — which typically stems from consistent, stable caregiving in childhood — leads us, in adulthood, to seek proximity & connection to a loved-one when upset & overwhelmed.When a loved-one offers us support & validation in the face of our big feelings, when their nervous system calms ours, this is known as co-regulation. Co-regulation is the not-so-secret sauce of secure relationships.
Understanding Polyvagal Theory
In a nutshell, Polyvagal Theory explains how we move between different nervous system states:· Social engagement (ventral vagal) – ‘I feel safe & connected’
· Fight, flight, fawn (sympathetic) – ‘I’m reactive’
· Freeze/collapse (dorsal vagal) – ‘I’m overwhelmed & shutdown’The different nervous system states are managed by the vagus nerve. It plays a part in regulating:
· Immune response
· Breathing
· Heart rate
· Emotions
· Social behaviourPolyvagal theory can also help us understand how our brain & body collectively respond to attachment trauma & relationship triggers.
About Yoga Nidra
Yoga Nidra, also known as yogic sleep, works with the energetic body to induce a state of deep rest. Although you’re awake, a profound stillness & calm takes over the body, & awareness turns inwards.Yoga Nidra influences brainwaves, enabling individuals to effortlessly transition from the waking beta state of conscious thought & logical thinking, to the alpha (between waking & dreaming; hypnagogic), theta (dreaming; sub-conscious), & delta (deep sleep; unconscious) states, all while the practitioner is awake & aware.
About Natalie
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence & enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/ - The Co-Regulation ExchangeLink visible for attendees
Lovely Words about Co-Regulation Events by Lovely Humans
“The facilitator had an incredibly warm approach- the best session I’ve attended on Meetup”
“Thank you, you did a really good job, 20 seconds hug for you.”
“Host was very knowledgeable and established personal relationships amongst participants which created the ideal safe environment. Information provided was very much appreciated.”
“Great patient host. Implemented precautions for the safety of all.”
“Was super informative and engaging. Natalie did an amazing job holding space for people while controlling the content/timing.”
“I felt safe.”
“Brilliant, thank you.”
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For the securely attached, healthy co-regulation is second nature. For the insecurely attached, it can take work. That’s where the Co-Regulation Exchange comes in.
Based on the feedback I’ve received from many of you who’ve attended my popular free event Co-Regulation: the Not-So-Secret Sauce of Secure Relationships, I’ve created the weekly Co-Regulation Exchange, starting weekly from June. The Exchange is for those who’d like to take the next step and practice co-regulation techniques in a safe, structured and supportive online environment.
If you’ve attended any of my events or courses you’ll have heard me say (many times!) that, on the journey to becoming securely attached, it’s important to find safe people to practice these healthy relationship strategies with. If that’s not readily available to you day-to-day, or it feels a bit scary and vulnerable, the Co-Regulation Exchange can help you to connect with likeminded community and build your co-regulation confidence.
Here’s what’s involved:
- Each week we’ll tackle two different co-regulation techniques, like validation and shared gratitude.
- RSVPs will close two days prior to each weekly event. You’ll then receive a video with examples of these co-regulation techniques in action (as well as examples of what is doesn’t look like!) plus a mini-workbook that you can refer to before/during/after the event.
- During each 90-minute event we’ll start with a 30-minute discussion about the techniques we’re exploring, then it’s time to pair up and practice the techniques for 30-45 minutes, changing pairings multiple times. To finish, we’ll come back together to share what we’ve learned.
Here’s what’s needed from you:
- Before participants can join the Co-Regulation Exchange you’ll need to participate in a free 15-minute Co-Regulation Check-in with me so that I can make sure it’s a good fit for you, including:
- You’re comfortable having your Zoom camera on for the Co-Regulation Exchange
- You understand the importance of healthy boundaries (for example, no trauma dumping, unsolicited advice or invalidation)
- You understand the intentions of the group (building healthy relationship skills, not a speed-dating event!)
- You feel comfortable giving and receiving feedback in a safe, constructive way – guidelines will also be provided to all participants - Be willing to interact with people from all different walks of life in a safe, nonjudgemental way.
- Drop-in week to week – no minimum commitment required
Why co-regulation’s so important
Co-regulation is when a trusted person offers us support and validation in the face of our big feelings and dysregulated behavior, when their nervous system calms ours.
In contrast to the securely attached, those of us who sit somewhere along the insecurely attached spectrum — whether anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant — often view relationships through the distorted lens of protection rather than connection, therefore we can struggle with healthy co-regulation.
Subconscious beliefs like:
‘I’m responsible for meeting all my partner’s needs. But if I express my needs to my partner I might be abandoned. And also, why doesn’t my partner just know what I need without me having to say anything? Is it because they don’t love me?’ (Anxious preoccupied).
Or:
‘I can’t rely on my partner to meet my needs, and my partner shouldn’t rely on me. I don’t do vulnerability, and that’s just the way I am — I can’t change. When my partner tries to get me to open up, I can feel myself shutting down.’ (Dismissive avoidant).
And then there’s:
‘My partner can’t really be trusted to be there for me. I’ll suppress my needs until they eventually explode out of me. Then, if my partner doesn’t immediately understand my feelings, I may press eject on the relationship altogether. Forget them.’ (Fearful avoidant).
The good news is that healthy co-regulation in a relationship skill we can learn at any age. And when we do, it strengthens bonds, creates deeper understanding and greater empathy. In adulthood, we use co-regulation in romantic partnerships, friendships, and even professional relationships.
About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE QLD. To schedule a free discovery call visit https://thisbeinghuman.live.
- Navigating the Anxious-Avoidant RelationshipLink visible for attendees
Do you repeatedly find yourself in the anxious-avoidant relationship cycle, where one partner seeks closeness and intimacy while the other partner seeks distance and independence?
Do you want to learn how to effectively communicate your needs to
your current/future partner in a way that honours your respective attachment styles and moves you both towards secure attachment?Do you want to finally transform your role in the anxious-avoidant cycle, the very common dance of activation (moving towards) and deactivation (moving away)?
In Navigating the Anxious-Avoidant Relationship you’ll discover tools to better understand the respective attachment styles’ relationship triggers, core wounds and relationship needs. You’ll learn strategies to help your partner feel safe, seen and understood.
Open to just 20 attendees who’ll receive:
- A Navigating the Anxious-Avoidant Relationship workbook
- Self-soothing recordings for the more anxiously attached
- ‘Low-stakes’ co-regulation recordings for the more avoidant attached
About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE Queensland. To schedule a free discovery call visit: https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/
- Why We Self Abandon and How to StopLink visible for attendees
Do you struggle to trust yourself, instead assuming others know better than you?
Do you minimise your own needs and interests in order to please others?
Do you have unhealthily high expectations of yourself?
Is your inner critic running the show?
Do you repeatedly find yourself in co-dependent relationships?
Self-abandonment starts early. It’s often the survival strategy of someone who felt emotionally or physically abandoned in childhood.
In adulthood, the subconscious belief of the habitual self-abandoner may be: ‘To be loveable and worthy, I must prioritise the needs of others.’ We tend to choose partners and friends who feed this narrative – who under-function in the relationship, take advantage of us, or don’t support us.
At the same time, self-abandoners don’t know how to be there for ourselves – to practice self-validation or self-care, to set healthy boundaries, to embrace imperfections.
Check out the Healing the I Am Abandoned Core Wound Workshop
Unaddressed, habitual self-abandonment can contribute to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, as well as unfulfilling relationships.
In new workshop Why We Self-Abandon and How to Stop we’ll:
- Explore the relationship between self-abandonment and the core wound I Am Abandoned
- Identify how each of the insecure attachment styles – anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant and dismissive avoidant – may self-abandon
- Explore simple strategies to: identify our own feelings and needs, identify our own interests and passions, learn self-compassion, and advocate for ourselves in relationships.
About Natalie
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence and enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/
