Limerence: When Insecure Attachment Keeps Us Stuck in Obsessive Love

If you’re looking for real love, but instead find yourself infatuated and even obsessed with someone who won’t be with you, you may be in the grips of limerence.

Limerence – first coined by psychologist Dorothy Tenov in the '70s – sees the limerent person unable to control their romantic fixation on the limerent object (LO), even if the other person doesn’t reciprocate.

If you:

• Experience frequent intrusive thoughts about the LO
• Have an overwhelming fear of rejection
• Idealise the LO – often without knowing them intimately (or at all!)
• Experience a rollercoaster of moods and emotions depending on whether the LO shows interest
• Feel excessively shy and awkward around the LO
• Fixate on improving yourself to win the LO’s love…

Your attachment wounds may be keeping you invested in fantasy relationships.

Can't Wait Until May 25th? Check out the Relationship Trigger Breakthrough today. Trauma-informed attachment coach Nat creates a 45-min personalised video gently exploring your repeat relationship trigger from an attachment perspective.

Join me for this free event, Limerence: When Insecure Attachment Keeps Us Stuck in Obsessive Love.

• If you want to understand how your insecure attachment style makes you vulnerable to repeat limerence
• If you want to break free from the pain and loneliness that accompanies long-term limerence
• If you want to dive into why the neuroscience of limerence leaves you feeling powerless to move on

During the 90-minute event you'll learn:

• The stages of limerence
• Which attachment styles are particularly vulnerable to limerence and why
• How limerence lights up the same control systems in the brain as drug addiction
• The role projecting our unmet emotional needs from childhood plays in limerence

About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence and enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/