Why We Self Abandon and How to Stop

Do you struggle to trust yourself, instead assuming others know better than you?

Do you minimise your own needs and interests in order to please others?

Do you have unhealthily high expectations of yourself?

Is your inner critic running the show?

Do you repeatedly find yourself in co-dependent relationships?

Self-abandonment starts early. It’s often the survival strategy of someone who felt emotionally or physically abandoned in childhood.

In adulthood, the subconscious belief of the habitual self-abandoner may be: ‘To be loveable and worthy, I must prioritise the needs of others.’ We tend to choose partners and friends who feed this narrative – who under-function in the relationship, take advantage of us, or don’t support us.

At the same time, self-abandoners don’t know how to be there for ourselves – to practice self-validation or self-care, to set healthy boundaries, to embrace imperfections.

Check out the Healing the I Am Abandoned Core Wound Workshop

Unaddressed, habitual self-abandonment can contribute to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, as well as unfulfilling relationships.

In new workshop Why We Self-Abandon and How to Stop we’ll:

• Explore the relationship between self-abandonment and the core wound I Am Abandoned
• Identify how each of the insecure attachment styles – anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant and dismissive avoidant – may self-abandon
• Explore simple strategies to: identify our own feelings and needs, identify our own interests and passions, learn self-compassion, and advocate for ourselves in relationships.

About Natalie

Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence and enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/