Healing the I Am Abandoned Core Wound

Following on from the June 22nd workshop Why We Self-Abandon and How to Stop, I invite 20 Lovely Humans to join me in rewriting the core wound I Am Abandoned.

The I Am Abandoned core wound often stems from inconsistent caregiving and/or physically/emotionally absent attachment figures. Early schooling experiences of bullying, social rejection or frequent moving can also contribute to this painful wounding.

A common core wound of people with anxious preoccupied and fearful avoidant attachment patterns, the I Am Abandoned core wound can lead to a laundry list of disempowered behaviours in relationships including:

• Self-abandonment
• People-pleasing/fawning
• Clinging
• Trying to maintain proximity at all costs
• Ignoring others’ boundaries
• Expressing fears often
• Making demands for closeness
• Testing
• Trying to make jealous
• Over-reliance on external validation
• Disliking spending time alone

The many benefits of healing the I Am Abandoned include:

• Boosting self-esteem
• Becoming less triggered in relationships
• Approaching relationships from a place of genuine connection, not protection

In this two-hour workshop we’ll:

• Gently explore how the I Am Abandoned core wound forms due to our attachment experiences
• Identify the experiences in your current life that are most likely to trigger your I Am Abandoned core wound
• Learn simple ways to ground yourself when your I Am Abandoned core wound is triggered
• Learn how to identify and express any unmet needs beneath your I Am Abandoned core wound
• Close with an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practice to rewrite your I Am Abandoned core wound

Participants will receive:

• A I Am Abandoned Workbook
• A I Am Abandoned Core Wound EFT tapping video recording

Understanding Core Wounds

Core wounds are beliefs we acquire through conditioning. Ages 0-8 are our peak conditioning years due to our highly impressionable brainwave states.

Those with insecure attachment styles tend to have more core wounds, where the securely attached’s core wounds are typically less intense, less frequently activated and situation specific.

The language of our core wounds is simple – ‘I am bad’, ‘I am alone’, ‘I am unsafe’, ‘I am unworthy’. This is because they were often formed before conscious, analytical thinking.

In adulthood, core wounds can present as an inability to regulate our emotions, including:

• Reactivity
• Emotional manipulation
• Controlling behaviour

About Emotional Freedom Technique

EFT, commonly known as tapping, is a powerful practice that combines aspects of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) with ancient Chinese acupressure.

During a tapping session you focus on the cause of stress, anxiety, or even physical pain while at the same time tapping EFT points that correspond with traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) meridians.

For over 2000 years meridians have been seen as energy pathways through which the body’s chi or life force flows. Today, researchers believe meridians are also linked to the nervous system and even brain activity.

Studies have found EFT beneficial for anxiety, depression and PTSD. Physiologically it's been found to lower cortisol and reduce blood flow to the amygdala. EFT is non-evasive, with no contraindications.

About Natalie

Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence and enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/