Anxious Preoccupied Support Group

Do you:

• Constantly desire more and more connection
• Form fantasy bonds in relationships – getting very attached to the idea of who someone *could* be, rather than how they’re actually behaving
• Self-abandon and people please to maintain connection with others
• Cling to partners to derive safety
• Fear abandonment and dislike spending time alone
• Struggle to identify own feelings and needs

If you answered ‘Yes’ to many of the above statements, anxious preoccupied attachment patterns may be negatively influencing your relationships.

In adulthood, those of us with anxious preoccupied attachment patterns often crave more and more connection in relationships.

We may be hypervigilant for signs that a partner’s interest has waned.

A text left on read or a phone call unreturned for longer than expected can see us spiralling.

In short, it can be anxiety inducing to have anxious preoccupied attachment patterns.

As part of this new monthly series, I invite those who recognise they lean anxious preoccupied to join me in deep diving into the different behaviours, actions, thoughts, emotional patterns and relationship expectations of this attachment style.

To kick off the monthly series (July 5th) we’ll explore the relationship between emotional regulation, self-soothing and the anxious preoccupied attachment style.

The anxious preoccupied attachment style often has its roots in inconsistent early attachment experiences – sometimes caregivers were available and responsive to our need for connection and attunement, and sometimes they weren’t.

In adulthood, this inconsistency is the anxious preoccupied’s relationship kryptonite - creating an intense, even excruciating, need for external reassurance and validation.

Because of our external focus, self-soothing is often an underdeveloped relationship skill for the anxious leaning. And yet, self-soothing and a greater awareness of our emotional triggers is the key to creating the balanced, healthy and intimate relationships we crave.

Together, we’ll explore simple self-soothing practices.

About Natalie:

Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE QLD. To schedule a free discovery call visit https://thisbeinghuman.live.