What we're about


I moved to the Cape with my husband Steve in April 2017 feeling like I had most things I needed in life, including friends. Still, I yearned to meet and develop friendships with local gay men, not always easy when you're in your 60s, married, and you're a designer sitting in front of a computer screen most of the day. The Cape is richly populated with gay men, but most activities and events are centered around P-town. I thought it might be interesting to start Cape Cod Gay Men's Social Group (a Meetup group) for those of us fortunate enough to call this slice of paradise "home". Four years, over a hundred events and 100+ members later I believe it all comes down to that incredible sense of happiness and fulfillment we derive from connecting with kindred spirits.

Who can join.
The Cape Cod Gay Men's Social Meetup is a group FOR MEN who identify as gay. While some of our members are comfortable sharing their sexual orientation publicly others are more private, out of respect for all we are a private group. 

Why should you join?
Because everybody needs a few more goods friends.

What you need to do.
1. Post a face photo and at least your first name. Cape Cod Gay Men’s Social Group is a private group, if we’re putting ourselves “out there” to seriously make friends this isn’t so much to ask. 
2. Live on or within an hour of Cape Cod (or spend part of the year here)
3. Chip in (if you're able). As a member driven organization it costs money for us to exist and reach you. Meetup expenses are almost $190 annually, Zoom is almost $150. Additionally we support event hosts who request for incidental expenses and we cover some events costs for members who might otherwise be unable to attend them. Until July 2021 we required members to pay dues ($10 year). Some members mailed in checks or paid to Meetup's previous online payment service (we lost almost 10% in fees), others slid under the radar and paid nothing. As the essential purpose of this group is having fun– not bookkeeping– dues are no longer mandatory. If you find the group adds value to your life we'd appreciate a nominal contribution of $5, $10 or $20. There's no obligation, we understand if you're unable or even choose not to, however we do encourage you to support the group by attending and/or hosting events.
If you plan to send a check, please make it out to:
Cape Cod Gay Men's Social Group
and mail it to:
Brian Schnetzer PO Box 1791, Brewster, MA 02631.

One last thought on joining. . . I've met some of the greatest guys and made some of the most meaningful friendships of my adult life right here. What have you got to to lose?

Hope to see you soon,

For more information email:
Brian Schnetzer (organizer)

Steve Coombs (co-organizer) 
Milt Harris (co-organizer) 

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Happy Hour at The Seal (6-8pm)

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Goodbye Bash for Ed Shepherd (potluck)

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Breakfast at The Daily Paper in Hyannis

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Past events (243)


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