INFJ Hangout (Late-November)

For our second Meetup in November, we have another focused discussion and this time it’s Friendship.
INFJs struggle a lot with friendship and loneliness, which is one of the reasons for creating this group. There are many reasons for this:
· We’re rare! Roughly 1% of the population are INFJs. We often feel like black sheep or a bit weird, maybe afraid to say what we’re really thinking.
· We’re social chameleons – able to adopt different personas and blend with many people but in doing so we almost forget who we are. Happiness only really comes when we live authentically.
· Few people trust INFJ insights, which can be hard to explain and we often even talk ourselves out of believing what we intuit. Without being able to provide concrete, tangible proof, we tend to be dismissed.
· INFJs need a lot of space and downtime, which can be hard for others to understand. We are also not the type of people to call up and do something spontaneous!
· We’re always seeking meaningful connection and given our good foresight, may be quick to ‘door slam’ if the friendship appears to not be working.
According to a recent study it takes 200 hours to make a ‘best friend’ which is easy at school and whilst living with people at uni but once working, it takes a great deal more effort. This is especially difficult when INFJs often need to pull back.
When do you consider someone is a friend? How long do you think you have to know someone? Is there a watershed moment that seals your friendship, like sharing personal things or going out of your way to help someone or for someone to help you?

Please note you don't have to be well-versed on Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to attend; we are merely looking to build a community of like-minded people for fun, support and connection.

We'll meet at the Southbank Balcony Bar on the 5th Floor of Royal Festival Hall. The easiest way to find us is to enter through the main entrance and take the lift to the fifth floor - we'll try to sit at that end on a big table & will have a Meetup sign on display. There is an entrance to Royal Festival Hall that is quite close to the Nelson Mandela (INFJ) statue and there is also an entrance to the ground floor around the corner. Lifts are at either end of the building.

You can buy either alcoholic or soft drinks, or tea/coffee at the bar.

There's always some people who don't come on the day, so if you're on the waitlist and would really like to come, please just come anyway! - We're not going to turn you away! If there's a lot of attendees, we'll split into 2 groups.