Men’s Group: Settling into Masculine Polarity and Presence

ABOUT THIS EVENT

We’ll begin with a clear, grounded explanation of masculine polarity—how it functions in the body, nervous system, and relationships, and how men lose access to it under stress, pressure, or relational strain.

This is not theory-heavy or abstract. It is a simple, practical orientation that directly affects how you move through work, relationships, intimacy, conflict, and uncertainty.

From there, we’ll move into a structured check-in. Each man will have space to share what is present for him or ask questions. Sharing is voluntary. There is no fixing, advising, or performing—just clear attention and grounded listening.

ABOUT THE GROUP

This is an in-person facilitated men’s group focused on honest, grounded communication about what is actually happening in our lives.
This is a clear, safe container that allows men to check in authentically—without pressure to perform, fix, advise, or present themselves in any particular way.
Men may speak about anything currently alive for them: physical challenges, emotional strain, relationships, work, health, recovery, purpose, anger, grief, isolation, or uncertainty. No topic is excluded as long as it is shared from personal experience and with respect for the group.
This is not a lecture, debate, or free-for-all discussion. The meeting is structured and facilitated so that each man has the opportunity to speak and be heard without interruption.
## What to Expect (Agenda)
The meeting will generally follow this flow:
Opening and orientation
A brief welcome and overview of the group structure, agreements, and intention for the space.
Guided check-ins
Each man will be invited to share what is present for him right now. Sharing is voluntary, and men are encouraged to speak honestly and concisely from their own experience.
Facilitated containment
The facilitator will help maintain pacing, clarity, and respect for the structure. There is no advice-giving, fixing, or cross-talk unless explicitly invited.
Closing
A short closing to help men transition out of the space grounded and oriented.
The emphasis is on presence, listening, and personal responsibility rather than solutions or analysis.
## What to Bring
Your own chair, back jack or cushion to sit on the floor
Willingness to listen respectfully and speak from your own experience
You do not need to prepare anything in advance
You do not need to know what you will say
You are welcome to attend even if you feel unsure, tired, guarded, or unclear.
## Group Agreements (Brief)
Confidentiality is expected. What is shared in the group stays in the group.
Speak from your own experience rather than about others.
No interrupting, fixing, or advising unless invited by the facilitator.
Participation is voluntary; listening is equally valued.
These agreements exist to support safety and clarity, not control.
## Who This Is For
This group is open to men aged 18 and older.
It is suitable for:
- men new to men’s groups
- men with prior experience who value structure and maturity
- men wanting a place to speak honestly
- men who want to practice grounded, direct communication
This group is not therapy or crisis intervention. If you are in immediate crisis or require medical or psychological care, please seek appropriate professional support.
## Location & Time
128 W 14th St Suite 201-A Durango, Colorado 81301
Friday Jan 30th 6pm-7:30pm
Please arrive on time. Entering late can be disruptive to the container.
See this link for exact Directions
## Leader
I've been in men's work since 2004—participating in and leading groups, and learning what actually helps men change versus what's just talk. I've been sober for 10 years. I transformed a divorce into a functional co-parenting relationship. I've done the work on masculinity, emotional regulation, and showing up in relationship without losing my temper or my empathy. I live in Durango with my fiancé and my 15-year-old son.