Power, Attraction, and Control: Breaking Down the “Sixteen Commandments” Part 1

This session kicks off a two-part series exploring one of the more provocative frameworks circulating in modern dating culture: the so-called “Sixteen Commandments.” Whether you’ve heard of them or not, these ideas raise important questions about power, attraction, and how men show up in relationships.

In Part 1, we’ll examine the first eight principles—concepts that emphasize independence, emotional restraint, ambition, and sometimes controversial tactics like creating scarcity or tension. Rather than taking these ideas at face value, we’ll put them under the microscope.

Together, we’ll explore:
• What these “commandments” are really trying to accomplish
• The role of power dynamics in attraction and relationships
• Where confidence and self-prioritization become unhealthy detachment
• The difference between genuine attraction vs. manipulation
• How these ideas align—or conflict—with your personal values

This is not about blindly adopting a playbook. It’s about developing discernment—understanding what works, what backfires, and what kind of man you actually want to be.

Expect a candid, thought-provoking discussion with room for different perspectives. Come ready to challenge assumptions, refine your thinking, and walk away with a clearer sense of how to navigate relationships with both strength and integrity.

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Join us every Wednesday at 6:00 PM for our weekly Men's Group meeting! This is an opportunity to connect with like-minded men and engage in conversations about topics that are important to us.

During the first hour of the meeting, we'll break into small groups to check-in with each other. This is a chance to share what's been going on in your life and get support from your fellow group members. We believe in creating a safe and supportive environment where everyone can feel comfortable sharing.

For the second half of the meeting, we'll have a topic of discussion that focuses on masculinity, success, relationships, dating, health, finance and what it takes to be an integrated man in todays world. We encourage all members to participate and share their thoughts and experiences.

If it's your first time attending, don't worry! Just introduce yourself and tell us a bit about yourself and what brings you to the group.

We have a few guidelines to ensure that everyone has a positive experience. Please silence your phone to respect others during check-ins or when someone is presenting. Additionally, we ask that you order food or drink from the club to compensate for our use of the space.

Feel free to come early and socialize before the meeting. Most weeks, a few guys are there by 5:30. We usually meet in the south side, but depending on circumstances, we may be in a different part of the club.

We look forward to seeing you there and building a supportive community of men!