When Closeness Feels Like a Threat: Navigating Avoidant Behavior in Relationship

Ever feel like asking for basic connection makes you seem “needy” or “too much”? In some relationships—whether new or years in—requests for intimacy or accountability can trigger defensive, distancing behaviors. You may find yourself confused, blamed, or questioning your own sanity when all you wanted was a little more closeness.

This discussion unpacks the common patterns of avoidant attachment: how emotional distancing, blame-shifting, and gaslighting can show up, and what to do when healthy connection gets turned against you. Learn how to stay grounded, set boundaries, and communicate your needs without falling into self-doubt. Whether you’re just starting to notice these signs or have been in it for a while, this conversation offers clarity, tools, and support.

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Join us every Wednesday at 6:00 PM for our weekly Men's Group meeting! This is an opportunity to connect with like-minded men and engage in conversations about topics that are important to us.

During the first hour of the meeting, we'll break into small groups to check-in with each other. This is a chance to share what's been going on in your life and get support from your fellow group members. We believe in creating a safe and supportive environment where everyone can feel comfortable sharing.

For the second half of the meeting, we'll have a topic of discussion that focuses on masculinity, success, relationships, dating, health, finance and what it takes to be an integrated man in todays world. We encourage all members to participate and share their thoughts and experiences.

If it's your first time attending, don't worry! Just introduce yourself and tell us a bit about yourself and what brings you to the group.

We have a few guidelines to ensure that everyone has a positive experience. Please silence your phone to respect others during check-ins or when someone is presenting. Additionally, we ask that you order food or drink from the club to compensate for our use of the space.

Feel free to come early and socialize before the meeting. Most weeks, a few guys are there by 5:30. We usually meet in the south side, but depending on circumstances, we may be in a different part of the club.

We look forward to seeing you there and building a supportive community of men!