Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly Meeting

### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message

Topic: Healthy Relationships

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### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns

Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse

Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link

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#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency

Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:

• How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
• Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
  Modalities:
• Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
• Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
• Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
  Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.

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#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action

Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:

• How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
• Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
  Modalities:
• Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
• IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
• Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
  Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.

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#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment

Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:

• The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
• How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
  Modalities:
• Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
• Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
• Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
  Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.

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#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.

#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence

Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:

• Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
• Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
  Modalities:
• Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
• Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
• Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
  Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
  Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
  — Pat Vulk