What we’re about
If you clicked on this group, I know that you're already super interested in safe spaces, queer spaces, and are most likely neurospicy too. If you clicked on this, I KNOW that you're cool with totally lame and punny stuff like me saying 'tribe with a vibe' (to some extent, the name is there to filter out the people that would go 'ew, lame, next' because I did consider leaving it as just Neurospice and Queer because that sounds edgy and cool, but then I thought of all the hipsters and neurotypicals and straight folks that would join, and not that I have anything against them, but they'd kinda defeat the purpose of the group in the first place)....
Now, you don't actually have to be neurospicy OR queer to join, but it's definitely preferable if you are at least neurospicy (neurodivergent)... the idea behind this group is for us to all be able to meet and connect with other like-minded people that we can socialize with in an EMOTIONALLY SAFE way in an emotionally safe environment. The first and foremost goal of this group is to foster and promote EMOTIONAL SAFETY!!! (anyone that is making anybody feel physically or emotionally unsafe has ONE chance to change their behavior to a more suitable behavior, and then they will kindly be asked to leave the group if this doesn't improve).
I just moved to Amsterdam, and I noticed how utterly difficult it is to find safe spaces where neurodivergent people and queer people can exist peacefully and COMFORTABLY. I read a quote by someone unknown "Life is already hard i don't want to be around people who make it even harder. I need people who feel like home, who bring comfort, calm and a sense of peace. That's the kind of energy that I need in my life"... and THAT is the kind of energy that I'd like this community to have ... a good comfortable vibe, emotionally safe, welcoming real community.
The aims are for everybody to feel safe, have a good time, and feel a sense of community and a sense of being welcome and belonging, beyond the shadow of a doubt.
Events will include, but are not limited to, walking, hiking, parks, picnics, book store exploration, crochet events, knitting events, boardgame events, reading events, book club events, just chilling and talking in a cosy café, and pretty much anything that you can think of!
THE IDEAS, DIRECTION, WHEN, WHERE, WHAT WILL MOSTLY COME FROM YOU GUYS!!!!! Almost everything will be voted on, polled/surveyed!! (hard limits are below)
THE NON-NEGOTIABLES ARE: THERE IS GOING TO BE ZERO TOLERANCE TO RACISM, SEXISM, HOMOPHOBIA, TRANSPHOBIA, ANYTHING IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM VIOLENT TOWARDS ANY GROUP OF PEOPLE, REGARDLESS OF PERSONAL OR POLITICAL VIEWS. ZERO TOLERANCE TO VIOLENCE, DISCRIMINATION OR HATRED!!!!!
I'm aiming for a relaxed, judgement-free safe space, where we hold space for one another, make one another feel seen, heard, validated, and a strong sense of belonging.
There are not many safe queer spaces designed just for queer people and upon much searching, I have not been able to find any spaces for queer and neurospicy people (and allies are welcome and self-diagnosed people are very valid!!!!)
Everything will be based on MUTUAL RESPECT, CONSENT, EMOTIONAL SAFETY AND PERSONAL ENJOYMENT.
THIS IS A SPACE WHERE IT IS OKAY TO SAY 'ID LIKE TO GO SIT BY MYSELF NOW' AND NOBODY WILL ASK YOU IF YOU'RE OKAY OR WHY OR THINK IT'S WEIRD TO GO SIT ON YOUR OWN IN THE CORNER AND READ.
THIS IS A SPACE WHERE WE RESPECT THAT SOME PEOPLE CO-REGULATE AND OTHERS SELF-REGULATE.
THIS IS A SPACE WHERE IT'S OKAY TO SAY 'I'M DONE SOCIALISING NOW BUT I'D LIKE TO BE ALONE WITH OTHERS SO I'LL STILL STICK AROUND' BECAUSE THIS IS A SPACE WHERE WE ALL UNDERSTAND WHAT PARALLEL PLAY IS AND HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO OUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.
THIS IS A SPACE WHERE WE CAN HAVE AN EVENT WITH TWO PEOPLE IN A LIBRARY JUST SO THAT WE CAN BODY DOUBLE AND GET OUR WORK DONE AND THE EVENT WON'T BE CANCELLED BECAUSE 'NOT ENOUGH PEOPLE ARE SHOWING UP AND IT'S NOT WORTH IT'
THIS IS A SPACE WHERE WE CAN RELY ON ONE ANOTHER WITH CONSENT, ZERO OBLIGATIONS, CLEAR AND COMPLETE COMMUNICATION, AND WHERE EVERY PERSON'S NEEDS ARE VALUED EQUALLY AND RESPECTED ENTIERLY.
THIS IS A SPACE FOR PEOPLE LIKE US.
if you read all that and actually made it this far.... yeah, you're one of us, please join XD
