Giving and Receiving: A Desire, Consent, and Boundary Workshop

Please note that RSVPs on Meetup do not reflect actual number of registered attendees! This event fills up.

Join me for a hands-on somatic consent workshop where you’ll practice feeling and communicating your desires, boundaries, and willingness to give to others.

This workshop is for you, if you need:

• a safe, platonic space to learn how to feel in your body when you genuinely want or don’t want to do something.
• tools to help you recover from codependency and people-pleasing, so that you know when to give to others without sacrificing yourself.
• to practice direct communication, including directly rejecting other people’s requests.
• to get better at prioritizing your own pleasure.
• to build skills to have more authentically consensual connection.
• to discover new ways of touching and being touched that bring you joy

The workshop is led by Juno Aventurine (they/them), a trauma-informed consent and connection facilitator who also leads a monthly Cuddle Sanctuary.

***You Must Register At The Link Below To Attend This Event***

More Info:
For the majority of our time together, I will guide you through a series of pair activities focused on asking and answering the questions: “How would you like me to touch you for 5 minutes?” and “How would you like to touch me for 5 minutes?”

The goal is to slow down and notice what sensations come up in your body and what they are trying to tell you about what you want, what you are truly willing to do for someone else, and what you are unwilling to do. You will explore what it feels like to be in the roles of Giver and Receiver, and together we will move beyond the social norms around giving and receiving pleasure.

Before we begin those activities, we’ll briefly discuss the importance of sensation and the distinction between “want to” and “willing to.” I will also give you a quick primer on guess culture and desire smuggling.

Check-ins, a bio break, and opportunities to share about your experience are woven into the three hour agenda. You are encouraged to take care of your bodily and emotional needs at any time. You never have to do anything that you are uncomfortable with. You are at choice in this space!

Note: The pair activities are a version of “The Three Minute Game,” described in the book The Art of Giving and Receiving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin. For more info about that game, visit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KCzpNBNbVM

Registration and Fee:
You must register in order to attend this event. Link is here: https://forms.gle/6SQUsrfYtL8YkgWm7

You will not receive a confirmation email. If you have registered *and paid* (or notified me that you need financial assistance), then you are on the attendance list. Due to space, attendance is capped at 10 people.

There is a sliding scale fee of $15 to $40 that you'll be asked to pay if a spot opens up for you. Please pay what you are able to without it being a detriment to your financial situation. If you cannot afford the lowest rate, let me know in the registration form. No one turned away for lack of funds.

***Refunds are given up to 48 hours before the event, if you decide to cancel***

Get here on time:
Please plan your travel to arrive early (before 2pm), so that you are ready to begin by 2. No entry will be allowed after 2:05pm, so that we can all focus on the workshop, rather than new people entering.

Location and Accessibility:
Radical Well-Being Center is at 20411 W. Twelve Mile Rd., Southfield, MI. Park in the back of the building where the wheelchair ramp is. Enter building through that door. RadWell is the first suite on the left in the hallway. The suite and the two bathrooms are wheelchair accessible.