About us
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 (who agrees to follow these rules) are welcome to join.
- 2. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 3. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 4. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 5. Do not direct message members you don't know or haven't met.
- 6. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 7. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 8. Be respectful and kind.
- 9. Be honest and transparent.
- 10. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 11. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 12. Do not show up to events that you're on the waitlist for, or that you haven't RSVP'd for. Only attend events you're on the 'going' list for.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
- 14. Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If you know of someone who has joined our group that has a sexual or violent criminal history please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
>> If a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
Interested in hosting events in the PDX Single 30 & 40 Somethings group? We're pretty much always open to new hosts, and the only real prerequisite is having attended a few events with the group recently. Chat with Kristina W, either via message or in person at an event, if you're interested.
Upcoming events
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Beginner bachata dancing class series for February 💃🏻
Vitalidad Movement Arts Center (VMAC), 2648 E Burnside St, Portland, OR, USWant to learn the basics of bachata dancing with fellow single folks on Tuesday nights in February? Let's do it!
Bachata is a social/partner dance from the Dominican Republic that's become popular around the world. To me, it seems roughly like a simpler, slower, and sexier counterpart to salsa dancing... but I've only ever taken one lesson, so we'll see :-) Here's a video to give you more of an idea: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_00FjwhoXAE
The classes:
This is a 4-week series of beginner-focused classes that will happen every Tuesday in February from 6:30-7:30 pm (plus a free and optional practica from 7:30-8:30 for us to practice more) at Vitalidad Movement Arts Center (VMAC) in Portland. It costs $75 for the series.What to expect:
- This is a totally beginner-friendly class. You won't be expected to have any previous bachata or dancing experience, and you don't need special shoes or anything.
- We'll be in a class with about 10-20 students from the general public plus the people from our Meetup group, and we'll rotate and dance with everyone.
- For anyone curious or familiar with bachata, the lesson will be teaching the 'modern bachata' style.
- Note: Finding parking is surprisingly tough near VMAC and class starts promptly at 6:30, so if you're driving I'd highly recommend giving yourself extra time to find a spot, walk over, and check in.
How to sign up:
- Go to https://www.vmacpdx.com/registration.html and find "February Bachata 1 (Orange)" under Tuesday, February 3. (You may need to select February 1 in the little calendar option under "Find a class" to see it.) Click "sign up" and then go through the process to create a profile. (Note: For anyone who took the bachata classes last April, that was Teal so this won't be a repeat or anything.)
- When you get to the part of choosing your pass, choose "follow" or "lead" based on what role in the dance you'd like to learn. Traditionally, women typically are "follows" in partner dances and men are "leads", but please choose whichever you'd like to learn in the class. For example, if you already know how to bachata dance as a lead you might want to take this beginner class a follow... or if you're a woman/non-binary and you'd mostly like to dance with women, you might want to take this class as a lead.
- Finish signing up and pay for the class with VMAC.
Any questions? Let me/Kristina know in the comments or send me a message.
And a reminder...
This group has Community Rules (you can find them in the About section here on Meetup) that include things like no harassing or aggressive behavior, no messaging people you haven't met, and being respectful and honest. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to another group organizer (like Max, Brenda, Kevin, Cory or Erin).15 attendees
Improv For Dating And Relationships
Portland Comedy Theater, 535 NW 16th Ave., Portland, OR, USWant to make dating easier and more fun? Strengthen your romantic relationships? This special workshop will help you apply basic improv principles to improve your dating and relationship experiences. Enjoy some laughs while learning how to be more spontaneous, feel more positive and confident.
This class is not specific to this Meetup group, but is open to the public. The cost is $39. Buy your ticket here directly from the theater. When you enter through the purple door on NW 16th you will find your instructor, Tiffany, in the theater.9 attendees
History Pub: A Man Called York @ Edgefield
McMenamins Edgefield Blackberry Hall, 2126 SW Halsey Street #C, Troutdale, or, USDid you know there was an enslaved man on the Lewis & Clark Expedition? His name was York. (You may have seen the statue of him that was on top of Mt. Tabor for a while in 2021, until it was unfortunately vandalized and torn down.)
At this History Pub, we'll learn all about York — his experiences during the expedition, his life before and after, and his place within national African American history. The presenter is Zachary Stocks of Oregon Black Pioneers, who was also a former park ranger at Lewis & Clark National Historical Park. You can learn more about the event and speaker here.
Care to join us?
- Get your ticket ahead of time before it quite possibly sells out. (Tickets are $5.)
- Let's meet up outside Blackberry Hall @ McMenamins Edgefield in Troutdale just before 6 so we can say hello before they open the doors, grab seats together, get a drink/snack, and chat a bit before the presentation starts at 7. (If you can't get there by 6, but can before 7, that's okay - just let us know and we'll do our best to save a seat for you with the group.)
- Find Kristina (I'll wear a ridiculous crown to make it easier) and say hi.
- After the History Pub event, folks could go to a nearby bar/restaurant to socialize more.
Reminder: Make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section. These include being respectful and honest, no harassing or aggressive behavior, no discrimination, and no touching anyone at an event without explicit verbal consent. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to another group organizer (like Max, Brenda, Kevin, Cory or Erin).
Any questions? Comment below or message me/Kristina.
**P.S. If anyone (who's been to a few of our events recently) would be interested in hosting an event in the PDX Single 30 & 40 Somethings group, please reach out to me/Kristina. I'm at maximum capacity for hosting, but I'd love to support more organizers posting more events :-)
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