About us
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 (who agrees to follow these rules) are welcome to join.
- 2. Do not direct message members you haven't met in person.
- 3. Keep your RSVP up to date. If you no-show (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) to 2+ events you will be removed from the group.
- 4. Only attend events you're on the 'going' list for. Do not show up to events that you're on the waitlist for, or that you haven't RSVP'd for.
- 5. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 6. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent.
- 7. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 8. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 9. Be respectful and kind. (Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.)
- 10. Be honest and transparent.
- 11. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 12. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
- 14. Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If you know of someone who has joined our group that has a sexual or violent criminal history please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
>> If a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Brenda, Shawn, Stephanie, Caitlin, Kevin, or Erin) know as soon as possible.
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Erin, Kevin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/QmxZJk9cNq
Interested in hosting events in the PDX Single 30 & 40 Somethings group? We're pretty much always open to new hosts, and the only real prerequisite is having attended a few events with the group recently. Chat with Kristina W, either via message or in person at an event, if you're interested.
Upcoming events
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Halloween 80’s & 90’s Video Dance Attack
Revolution Hall, 1300 SE Stark St #203, Portland, OR 97214, USA, Portland, OR, USThis is the best dance party in town! Come in your best dancing costume. We will meet at Show Bar downstairs at 7pm before heading upstairs to the main hall at 8:00 pm. Glow bracelets will be handed out so you know who is in the group. Our group will primarily be upstairs, but you are also welcome to head downstairs to show bar. TICKETS WILL SELL OUT. BUY THEM HERE NOW. They are $40 each after fees. I asked about a group rate and did not hear back. 🤷♀️
Details from their website:
Main Upstairs Hall: 80s + 90s Video Dance Attack hits with VJ Kittyrox
Show Bar: 80s + 90s New Wave/Alt with DJ Gregarious & VJ Disorder
$30 Advance/$35 Day of Show
Tickets on sale now here!
The 80s + 90s Video Dance Attack 2026 Halloween Party is ready to haunt Revolution Hall!
Our MONSTER two-floor Halloween Party returns! This year features Video Dance Attack in the main hall playing all your favorite 80s & 90s music videos while Show Bar will feature the videos that made MTV's 120 Minutes era great with special guests DJ Gregarious & VJ Disorder! The super-size Halloween production will be in full effect! Tons of lights, video, music, dancing and decor in two rooms! Plus our famous photo booth returns!26 attendees
Singles Give Back: Special Olympics Oregon Swim Competition Volunteering
HMT Complex, 15707 SW Walker Rd., Beaverton, OR 97006, Portland, OR, USLet’s spend a Sunday doing some good and getting to know each other along the way! Join our 30s & 40s Singles Group to support athletes at Special Olympics Oregon’s Beaverton Regional Aquatics competition on Sunday, November 1.
Expect swimming, teamwork, plenty of cheering, and a chance to connect with other community-minded singles. The event coordinator is excited to have our group help!
We have two exciting ways to participate based on how involved you want to be.
🙌 Path 1: Come volunteer directly with us
No sports knowledge, athletic ability, or previous volunteer experience needed. The Special Olympics Oregon team will train you onsite and assign your role at check-in.
You might help with:
- Athlete escorts: Guide swimmers from staging to their lanes and then to awards.
- Timing: Time races and call the finish order.
- Results: Deliver and record race results.
- Awards: Prepare medals and ribbons and help with presentations.
- Developmental skills: Help with staging, escorting, and timing for the morning skills competition.
Have relevant experience? Let the team know at check-in!
You can choose between a full-day shift of about 8–9 hours or a half-day shift of about 4–4.5 hours, depending on availability.
All volunteers receive a Special Olympics Oregon T-shirt, and full-day volunteers receive lunch.
📝 How to join as a volunteer
- RSVP here so we know you’re joining our Meetup group.
- Register directly with Special Olympics Oregon and choose your shift (link here or in comments). Your Meetup RSVP alone does not reserve a volunteer spot.
- Watch for a Meetup message from me! I’ll check in to confirm your shift, help with questions, and coordinate our group.
Please register promptly if you’d like to volunteer, since shifts have limited spaces. Follow the arrival and check-in instructions for your selected shift.
💛 A small commitment that makes a big difference
The event team relies on registered volunteers to keep the competition running smoothly. Please choose a shift you can commit to attending in full and plan ahead for the day.
Of course, unexpected things happen! If you can no longer volunteer, please notify the Special Olympics coordinator promptly, update your volunteer registration, and update your Meetup RSVP too. Keeping everyone informed as timely as possible gives the team time to adjust.
📣 Path 2: Prefer to cheer? Join the audience!
You can also support the athletes from the sidelines. If committing to volunteering in a shift isn’t the right fit, or the shifts have filled, come enjoy the competition and help us give the swimmers an enthusiastic audience!
Please let me know whether you’re volunteering or coming to cheer, so I can coordinate our group. Only people registered directly with Special Olympics Oregon will be counted as volunteers.
Which ever path you choose, we’re happy to have you!
Come lend a hand, bring your cheering voice, and spend a Sunday supporting our greater Portland community. 💛
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