About us
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 (who agrees to follow these rules) are welcome to join.
- 2. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 3. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 4. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 5. Do not direct message members you don't know or haven't met.
- 6. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 7. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 8. Be respectful and kind.
- 9. Be honest and transparent.
- 10. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 11. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 12. Do not show up to events that you're on the waitlist for, or that you haven't RSVP'd for. Only attend events you're on the 'going' list for.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
- 14. Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If you know of someone who has joined our group that has a sexual or violent criminal history please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
>> If a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/QmxZJk9cNq
Interested in hosting events in the PDX Single 30 & 40 Somethings group? We're pretty much always open to new hosts, and the only real prerequisite is having attended a few events with the group recently. Chat with Kristina W, either via message or in person at an event, if you're interested.
Upcoming events
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Trivia @ White Owl (join the waitlist)
White Owl Social Club, 1305 Se 8th Ave, Portland, OR, USJoin us and get to know some fellow single folks through your random knowledge of movies, history, food, science, sports, books, and music!
What to expect at trivia:
- This is Untapped Trivia, which is on paper and typically has some cool rounds with pictures or audio.
- We'll be on the outdoor patio, which is covered and has some heaters in the winter and fans in the summer. I'd suggest bringing/wearing layers.
- We'll meet at 6:00 to try to snag some good tables next to each other, and so we can chat and get some drinks/food.
- The picnic table you sit at will become your trivia team. Teams can be up to 7 people. Trivia starts promptly at 7 pm (but do please show up closer to 6 if you can) and goes til 9.
- Our group is not hardcore about trivia. We're focused on having fun and getting to know each other. Don't worry about getting an answer wrong or not knowing any.
- Look for the tables with red candles on them - that's where people from our Meetup group will be and sit. The rest of the folks in White Owl will be general members of the public.
- When you arrive, cross your name off the sign-in sheet and (if I remember to bring them and if you want to) grab a conversation starter sticker that will say something like "I really love _____" for you to fill in.
What to expect now on Meetup:
- The first 25 people to RSVP will go straight to the 'going' list, and after that everyone will go on a waitlist. I'll move some people over from the waitlist, with a priority going to people who will help balance the gender ratio, haven't no-showed before, are fun/friendly regulars, etc. (Paying for the Meetup+ thing doesn't actually do anything to prioritize you on this kind of waitlist, FYI.)
Housekeeping:
- As always, let's make sure to be respectful to everyone and support the venue (please plan to order a few food/drink items).
- Please keep your RSVP up to date and check in with Kristina or cross your name off the sign-in sheet when you arrive so you don't get marked as a no-show. We regularly remove people with 2+ no-shows from the group.
- Make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section. These include no harassing or aggressive behavior, no touching anyone at an event without explicit verbal consent, and only showing up to events you're on the 'going' list for. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to another group organizer (like Max, Brenda, Kevin, Cory, Rachel, Cat or Erin).
- Reminder: Meetup hosts/organizers are volunteers who dedicate their time, planning skills, emotional labor, and a little money (pens, nametags, etc.) to make these events possible... and we can't control everything. Thanks for your understanding and appreciation - it goes a long way :-)
- Interested in hosting? Please reach out to me/Kristina. I'm at maximum capacity for hosting, but I'd love to support more organizers posting more events.
Any questions? Let me know in the comments or send me a message.
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Bioblitz nature walk for City Nature Challenge
Powell Butte Nature Park, 16160 Southeast Powell Boulevard, Portland, OR, USAre you curious about the native plants and wildlife we have here in Portland? Let's join in on the annual City Nature Challenge this weekend and see what we can find!
This will be a mindful, slower-paced walk where we'll explore this nature park and stop and smell the roses, so to speak — and maybe snap a photo with our phones and figure out exactly what kind of rose it is.
What is the City Nature Challenge?
It's an annual "bioblitz" where people around the world document the plants and wildlife in their cities, just by adding photos (or audio recordings) with the date and location to an app/website I absolutely love called iNaturalist. That data is used by scientists, conservationists and the community to better understand urban biodiversity and how different species are doing.What to expect:
- Powell Butte Nature Park is pretty big (3x the size of Mount Tabor) and has a nice mix of open meadows and forest.
- There's a decent-sized parking lot with a restroom where we'll be meeting.
- From the parking lot, there is a mix of paved and gravel/dirt paths that aren't too narrow. (If you'd like to stay on the paved paths, let me know and we can do that.)
- We'll probably see (or hear) a bunch of cool stuff: various wildflowers in bloom, many types of birds (woodpeckers, birds of prey, hummingbirds, etc.), butterflies, maybe deer or a (harmless) garter snake... and perhaps even something that hasn't been documented at this park before.
- We may naturally splinter into some smaller groups if folks want to check out different areas, but you can 100% stay with me the whole time. In much of the meadow area you can see pretty far too, so you could explore a bit and still stay within sight distance of the main group.
What to bring:
- Your phone. (If you'd like to participate in the bioblitz, I'd recommend downloading the iNaturlist app and creating your account before the event just to save time.)
- Water bottle
- Sunscreen, sun hat, sunglasses, etc.
- Snacks or lunch, if you want. Some folks might stick around afterwards and eat near the park entrance. Or some folks could go out to eat somewhere afterwards.
- Totally optional: If you have binoculars or a camera with a zoom lens you'd like to bring, go for it.
- Have a well-behaved kiddo? Feel free to bring them if you promise they won't run off trail (there is stinging nettle) or stomp on any critters :-)
Pretty please...
- Let's follow the Leave No Trace principles, which include things like not picking wildflowers, packing out all your trash, and staying on existing trails.
- No dogs, please. They tend to scare off some wildlife, and honestly they can stress me out a bit.
- As always, make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section, and please keep your RSVP up to date.
Any questions? Comment below or send me a message.
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