About us
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 (who agrees to follow these rules) are welcome to join.
- 2. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 3. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 4. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 5. Do not direct message members you don't know or haven't met.
- 6. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 7. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 8. Be respectful and kind.
- 9. Be honest and transparent.
- 10. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 11. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 12. Do not show up to events that you're on the waitlist for, or that you haven't RSVP'd for. Only attend events you're on the 'going' list for.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
- 14. Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If you know of someone who has joined our group that has a sexual or violent criminal history please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
>> If a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
Interested in hosting events in the PDX Single 30 & 40 Somethings group? We're pretty much always open to new hosts, and the only real prerequisite is having attended a few events with the group recently. Chat with Kristina W, either via message or in person at an event, if you're interested.
Upcoming events
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Beginner bachata dancing class series for March 💃🏻
Vitalidad Movement Arts Center (VMAC), 2648 E Burnside St, Portland, OR, USWant to learn how to dance the bachata with fellow single folks? Let's do it!
Bachata is a latin partner dance from the Dominican Republic that's become popular around the world. To me, it seems like a simpler, slower, and sexier counterpart to salsa dancing... and I really love it so far! Here's a video to give you more of an idea: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_00FjwhoXAE
The classes:
This is a 5-week series of beginner-focused classes that will happen every Tuesday in March from 6:30-7:30 pm (plus a free and optional practica from 7:30-8:30 for us to practice more) at Vitalidad Movement Arts Center (VMAC) in Portland. It costs $93 for the series.What to expect:
- This is a totally beginner-friendly class. You won't be expected to have any previous bachata or dancing experience, and you don't need special shoes or anything.
- We'll be in a class with about 10-20 students from the general public plus the people from our Meetup group, and we'll rotate and dance with everyone.
- Note: Finding parking is surprisingly tough near VMAC and class starts promptly at 6:30, so if you're driving I'd highly recommend giving yourself extra time to find a spot, walk over, and check in.
How to sign up:
- Go to https://www.vmacpdx.com/registration.html and find "March Modern Bachata 1 (Navy)" under Tuesday, March 3. (You may need to select March 1 in the little calendar option under "Find a class" to see it.) Click "sign up" and then go through the process to create a profile.
- When you get to the part of choosing your pass, choose "follow" or "lead" based on what role in the dance you'd like to learn. Traditionally, women typically are "follows" in partner dances and men are "leads", but please choose whichever you'd like to learn in the class. For example, if you already know how to bachata dance as a lead you might want to take this beginner class a follow... or if you're a woman/non-binary person and you'd mostly like to dance with women, you might want to take this class as a lead.
- Finish signing up and pay for the class with VMAC.
FAQ: What's with the colors?
- At VMAC, they have three Bachata 1 set of monthly classes: Orange, Teal, and Navy. All of those are totally for beginners, but you'll learn different things in each class — and you can take them in any order. If you want to move up to Bachata 2, you'll first want to take all three colors of Bachata 1.
- Note: For anyone currently taking bachata classes with the Meetup group in February 2026, that's Orange (or the bachata classes in April 2025, which was Teal)... so this Navy series won't be a repeat or anything.
Any questions? Let me/Kristina know in the comments or send me a message.
And a reminder...
This group has Community Rules (you can find them in the About section here on Meetup) that include things like no harassing or aggressive behavior, no messaging people you haven't met, and being respectful and honest. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to another group organizer (like Max, Brenda, Kevin, Cory or Erin).9 attendees
Volunteer planting along Johnson Creek 🌳 + lunch
Foster Floodplain Natural Area, 10602 SE Foster Rd, Portland, OR, USCare to get a little dirty and restore a natural area with like-minded folks? Let’s get together for Johnson Creek Watershed Council's* big annual Watershed Wide event and help improve wildlife habitat and water quality along this creek that stretches from the Cascade foothills to the Willamette River.
What to expect
- We'll be planting young native plants, and possibly picking up trash.
- Tools, training and gloves will be provided, and you don’t need any prior experience or certain level of strength or anything.
- The volunteer event is from 8:45-12 (followed by lunch) and will be happening rain or shine.
- For this special event, a free lunch will be delivered after the work party, if you'd like to stay. There should be meat and vegan options available.
RSVP + register
For this volunteer event, you need to register here: https://www.tfaforms.com/5208818 This event may fill up, so don't wait to register if you want to go. For more info on this event, go here.Location + getting there
We're planting at Foster Floodplain Natural Area, which is right next to the Springwater Corridor Trail (and has bike racks), on bus lines 73 and 14, and just a bit east of I-205. Johnson Creek Watershed Council can provide bus fare to and from the event - email info@jcwc.org to arrange that.Things you may want to bring / wear
- Clothes that will keep you comfortable if it rains (avoid cotton/jeans if you can) and that you don’t mind getting dirty
- Sturdy footwear that can get wet/dirty
- Rain jacket
- Hat
- Water bottle & a snack
- Change of clothes/shoes for afterwards, if you’d like
Have to cancel?
If you register and later have to cancel, please update both your RSVP here on Meetup AND let Johnson Creek Watershed Council know you can't make it.Questions? Comment below or message me.
*Johnson Creek Watershed Council is a local non-profit that works to restore Johnson Creek. They do a bunch of things like replacing small culverts that block fish passage, collecting data on the presence of various animals (like beavers and lamprey), removing trash from the creek during their Annual Johnson Creek Clean-Up, and working with people who own property along the creek/streams in the watershed to plant trees and shrubs for them at no cost. More info at jcwc.org.
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March North Portland Book Club
Multnomah County Library Albina Branch, 205 NE Russell St, Portland, OR, USWe will be discussing the book The Message by Ta-Nehisi Coates.
We will be downstairs in the large Community Room 1A. Non-alcoholic beverages and light snacks are allowed in library community rooms. It is optional to bring something to share with the group, but always welcome.You can see our list of recommended reads here. These are books that we have mentioned in book club, some of which have been voted on as future reads.
Remember to respond to our survey for our April read by Saturday, February 14th. It will be closed after that.
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