Narcissistic Abuse, C-PTSD & Codependency Support Group

Welcome to the Coparenting With a Narcissist Support Meeting. This meeting is for established members and focuses specifically on the struggles that come with caring for children with a narcissist.

Whether you are still in a relationship with your co-caregiver, separated, divorced, etc, and whether you’re a parent, step-parent, grandparent, or other caregiver, this group is for those of us who have to navigate the extra complexity that comes from sharing care with narcissistic abusers.
I have three children (from toddler to school age) with my narcissistically abusive husband and we are separated - and I know that this relationship, that I have no choice but to remain in, is difficult for even my most understanding support network to fully grasp.
If this is your first time here, please sign up for a First Timers event. These meetings are to ensure the safety of our members and our hosts as we share sensitive details about our experiences. We also do this to ensure all new members will get a chance to share and introduce themselves right away, this is a way for us to properly meet each of you. Instructions are posted in the First Timers events and we appreciate your cooperation in advance!

This event is for established members only. You must have attended a First Timers event prior to signing up for this one. If you have not attended a First Timers event, you will be removed from the meeting.
Please be advised we require your camera to be on. You may turn it off if you need to step away/etc, but, for the comfort and safety of our group members, we need to see that you’re a real person and experience your body language.
Please take the time to review these points before joining:

1. I am not a mental health counselor, licensed counselor, doctor, or coordinator. I am simply someone who has had a similar experience to the people who meet in these groups. No advice or suggestions in here are to be taken as medical advice. Please see your physician before changing any medication routines, or before making any large life changing decisions. You may discuss coping mechanisms you have learned in a therapy group, or discuss medications that work for you, but be advised this is not medical advice, nor is anything in this group intended to be used for the purpose of a diagnosis or for treatment. Please consult a physician or a mental health counselor. This group is not a therapy group, it is a support group. If you are in dire need of help, suicidal, or in an unsafe situation, please contact your local police or helpline ASAP.
2. I am not an attorney. Nothing said or discussed by me, or anyone else in this group is to be construed as legal advice. We may guide you towards helpful legal resources, but we are not giving you legal advice. Do not take any advice pertaining to law enforcement, courts, any sort of restraining order, attorney references, legal resources, suggestions, etc. as true legal advice. It is simply a suggestion for you to have for your own personal use to make your own personal judgment as what is best for you and your situation.
3. Please remember that not everyone’s experiences are your own. Every one deals with things in different ways, every one copes in different ways, every one reacts in different ways, and every one finds solutions in different ways. Be polite to your group mates, please.
4. Solicitation is not allowed. We offer free resources from time to time. Members love posting informational videos regarding the topics discussed during our meetings and that is absolutely wonderful, we love sharing knowledge! But we will not entertain sales pitches for MLM products, classes, tools, therapy groups, medication, pamphlets, booklets, or any sort of products.
5. There will likely be mentions of all sorts of abuses and triggering topics. We will handle them with as much sensitivity as possible, but cannot control what other group mates say.
6. We encourage everyone to chat and talk and make friends outside the group if you feel comfortable, we love making new friends and broadening our support group! If you feel like you’ve made a connection with a group mate, please message me and I will approach them about exchanging contact information. We do not take kindly to messaging other members trying to push beliefs or information down their throats.

Designed for first timers to our group meetings, this is a support group designed for people who are thinking about leaving, in the process of leaving or have successfully left a Narcissistic relationship.

*REGISTRATION AND ATTENDANCE AT THIS GROUP PROVIDES YOU ACCESS TO UNLIMITED, COMPLIMENTARY GROUP SUPPORT. UPON ATTENDANCE YOU ARE CONSIDERED AN ESTABLISHED MEMBER AND CAN SIGN UP FOR ANY OF OUR MEETINGS*

DESCRIPTION: The first half hour of the meeting will consist of us introducing ourselves, providing a brief description of our group and how it operates and then advising you of our rules and regulations. The last half hour of the meeting, each member will be provided time to introduce themselves and advise what they are looking for from the group so that we can advise you the best support meeting in our network for your individual needs and circumstances. For safety and security, CAMERAS MUST BE ON DURING THIS MEETING.

*NOTE: You are responsible for making sure your Zoom settings work prior to the meeting. Please check your settings and give it a trial run before your attendance.*

AGENDA: Grab a coffee, ice cream or wine and join people who have been through or are going through leaving a Narcissist. This group is meant to provide support to those who feel alone, unsupported and misunderstood. Leaving a Narcissist is NEVER easy and hearing others' stories whatever stage of their journey is healing. If you feel comfortable sharing your story, please do, but if not, come and listen and know you are not alone. Everyone will get a chance to share, so I'm limiting the amount of attendees.

FEE: $30. This cost is designed to ensure attendance for first timers. Our regular group meetings are free of charge. If this group appears to be a good fit, you can join any of the free meetings, special event meetings and monthly support meetings upon invite.

Please note that if you fail to attend the event and no-show, this fee is non-refundable as we are holding open a spot for you and have alotted time for your share. If you cannot make the event due to an unforeseen circumstance and can contact us BEFORE the event takes place, we can fit you into an upcoming meeting as long as this is communicated to us beforehand

YOUR ORGANIZER: I know how hard it is to 'get out' - 20 years ago, I successfully cut out my narcissistic mother using no contact and 'grey rock' to much success. Since then, I've raised three awesome kids, got a law degree and wrote two books. I felt successful, happy and ready to move on from a fairly normal 13 year marriage when I got into an intimate long distance relationship with a narcissist. After a year of all sorts of abuse, I recently got out and can't believe I've let this happen in my romantic life. (I couldn't choose my parent, but I could choose my partner!) Looking forward to hearing everyone's story in a low-key online meetup.

THIS GROUP IS FOR FIRST TIMERS ONLY. PLEASE DO NOT SIGN UP FOR THIS IF YOU HAVE ALREADY ATTENDED ONE OF OUR MEETINGS.

ALL ZOOM LINKS ARE SENT VIA EMAIL (WHATEVER YOU SIGNED UP FOR WITH MEETUP) THE MORNING OF THE MEETING. PLEASE ENSURE YOU HAVE YOUR SETTINGS TURNED ON TO RECEIVE EMAILS FROM MEETUP AS ALL OF OUR LINKS ARE SENT THIS WAY TO ALL MEETINGS*

The step of remembering and mourning the trauma is essential for recovering from complex PTSD. In this second step of the Complex PTSD recovery stages, one must address the things that were lost due to one's trauma. Today, we will go over the methods used in the psychotherapy community to cope with this grief including EMDR, desensitization therapies and neurofeedback in order to successfully through this stage of healing. Group members are, as always,
encouraged to participate in the discussion and offer feedback on this step.

Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is a widely talked about but barely understood condition that repeatedly comes up in our groups dealing with narcissistic abuse. Many times, our members have been told they suffer from it, but haven’t been provided an effective treatment plan or even basic information on C-PTSD. Other times our members haven’t heard of it and are surprised to learn that there’s a name for what they’re experiencing.

After recent discussions on the topic with my own therapist, I related that I found the information passed along to me about C-PTSD vague, confusion and without any kind of direction. He made it clear to me that there’s not a lot of understanding on C-PTSD, but that it seems to be a new ‘buzz’ diagnosis in the psychology field even though many practicing psychologists and therapists haven’t had specific training on the disorder.

Together with my therapist, we decided to unpack some of the information (and misinformation) about C-PTSD in workshop format so that our members have a clear and concise understanding of the concept and the current suggestions on the treatment of the disorder. This workshop will consist of open group discussion on thoroughly researched information on C-PTSD presented in slide format, self-quizzes on the matter and question, answer and suggestion conversation so that we are armed with necessary information about it in order to make a clear treatment plan for ourselves.
There will be six classes in this series of workshops. Members can sign up for one or all six. The workshops will be capped in attendance and will be first come, first served between both the US Groups and the London groups. The classes will take place as follows:
Class 1: What is Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and Do I have it?
Class 2: How CPTSD Can Affect Intimate Relationships, Work Relationships, Friendships & Daily Life
Class 3: Treatment Step 1: Establishment of Safety with CPTSD
Class 4: Treatment Step 2: Mourning and Remembrance with CPTSD
Class 5: Treatment Step 3: Reconnection and Integration with CPTSD
Class 6: Final Workshop Wrap Up – Tailoring a Specific Treatment Plan for You
Classes will encourage open discussion along with a downloadable power point that can be referred back to for information. You do NOT have to be an established member to attend these classes and you can choose to go to one class, several, or all 6.

COST: $15.00 per class, limited to 25 people per class

ZOOM LINKS WILL BE SENT VIA E-MAIL THE MORNING OF THE MEETING. PLEASE ENSURE YOU HAVE YOUR MEETUP SETTINGS SET TO RECEIVE E-MAILS.

*THIS EVENT IS FOR ESTABLISHED MEMBERS ONLY. YOU MUST HAVE ATTENDED A FIRST-TIMERS MEETING PRIOR TO SIGNING UP FOR THIS GROUP.*
Welcome to the women's and those who are non-binary Narcissistic Abuse Support Group. This meeting is for ESTABLISHED MEMBERS, focusing specifically on Women's issues and any other topic while promoting openness, sisterhood, and empowerment. It is a safe, cozy space for those who identify as female or non-binary to share more intimately about having survived any kind of abusive relationship with a narcissist - romanic, platonic, familial, etc - or are currently in one and in need of support. The cycle of abuse from the love-bombing to the trauma bond to the devaluation to the discard is never-ending and makes you feel alone. Please come and share your experience, this is a supportive place to vent and talk.

LINKS WILL BE SENT OUT A FEW HOURS BEFORE THE MEETING STARTS VIA THE E_MAIL YOU SIGNED UP TO MEETUP WITH AND IN YOUR MEETUP PRIVATE MESSAGES

*If this is your first time here, please sign up for a first timers group. We do this to ensure the safety of our members, and our hosts as this is a very personal subject. We also do this to ensure all new members will get a chance to share and introduce themselves as meetings usually fill up with large wait lists, this is a way for us to properly meet each of you. Instructions are posted in the First Timers events and we appreciate your cooperation in advance!*

Please take the time to review just a couple things before joining:

1. I am not a mental health counselor, licensed counselor, doctor, or coordinator. I am simply someone who has had a similar experience to the people who meet in these groups. No advice or suggestions in here are to be taken as medical advice. Please see your physician before changing any medication routines, or before making any large life changing decisions. You may discuss coping mechanisms you have learned in a therapy group, or discuss medications that work for you, but be advised this is NOT medical advice, nor is anything in this group intended to be used for the purpose of a diagnosis or for treatment purposes. Please consult a physician or a mental health counselor, this group is not a therapy group, it is a support group. If you are in dire need of help, suicidal, or in an unsafe situation, please contact your local police or helpline ASAP.
2. I am not an attorney. Nothing said or discussed by me, or anyone else in this group is to be construed as legal advice. We may guide you towards helpful legal resources, but we are in NO way, shape, or form, giving you legal advice. Do not take any advice pertaining to law enforcement, courts, any sort of restraining order, attorney references, legal resources, suggestions, etc. as true legal advice. It is simply a suggestion for you to have for your own personal use to make your own personal judgment as what is best for you and your situation.
3. Please remember that not everyone’s experiences are your own. Every one deals with things in different ways, every one copes in different ways, every one reacts in different ways, and every one finds solutions in different ways. Be polite to your group mates, please.
4. NO SOLICITATION. We offer free resources from time to time. Members love posting informational videos regarding the topics discussed during our meetings and that is absolutely wonderful, we love sharing knowledge! BUT, do not come in here selling MLM products, classes, tools, therapy groups, medication, pamphlets, booklets, or any sort of products UNLESS OTHERWISE APPROVED BY KERRIN. We do not take kindly to messaging other members trying to push beliefs or information.
5. There may be mentions of abuse.
6. We encourage everyone to chat and talk and make friends outside the group if you feel comfortable, we love making new friends and broadening our support group! Enjoy!

In-Meeting RULES

• NO contacting other members through the meeting chat or Meetup private messages without going through an organizer first to ask permission. Please contact an organizer immediately if you are contacted without consent, or generally made to feel uncomfortable by someone to an organizer.
• If you feel triggered, please mute your computer or briefly sign out. The organizer will let you back in no questions asked.
• Please RAISE HANDS and do not interrupt or talk over each other.
• Do not raise your voice at another member or the organizer.
• Do not bring up controversial topics unrelated to narcissism.
• Do not use slurs. The use of a slur or any prejudice towards a group of people will result in removal.
• Keep mentions of suicidal ideation and physical or sexual abuse general. Please avoid more graphic detail.
• Try to use "I" statements and give advice only when asked for such.